When things aren’t going right anymore in what used to be a seemingly perfect relationship and you just can’t seem to work things out, your best bet is to end things as soon as possible. But how can you go about doing this when you have a boyfriend who is too emotional for his own good? Well it isn’t easy, but here are ten tips on how to make it as painless as possible.
1. Set him up for it.
It’s best that he knows something serious is going to be brought up in your conversation. Perhaps throw him the cliché “we need to talk” sentence. Of course he may start to worry, but remember that he has a very good reason to.
2. Plan a time for your talk.
Don’t just bring up your “we need to talk” line and break up with him in one conversation. After you set him up for the bad news, tell him that you’ll have the conversation next time you see each other. This gives him time to mentally prepare instead of hitting him with it randomly.
3. Don’t continue to lead him on once you’ve made up your mind to break up with him.
If you know you’re going to end things, quit sending him those cute little kissy face texts or saying you miss or love him. This is just one small way for you to hint that your feelings are starting to change. If he brings it up, that is a good time to set him up for the talk.
4. Keep his feelings in mind.
When you’re irritated with an overly sensitive boyfriend, it’s easy to forget about how he may be feeling. Remember that he more than likely has more emotions than you. So imagine how you would feel if someone you cared about was breaking up with you, then multiply it by ten. This will help you to be more understanding if he starts to cry or get hysterical.
5. Don’t start flirting with guys before you break up with him.
If you begin to show interest in another guy while you are still dating your clingy boyfriend, he will automatically assume you’re breaking up with him to be with someone better than him, even if it isn’t true. However, if you truly are leaving him to be with someone else, keep it private for a while.
6. Make sure he knows he can’t change your mind.
There’s nothing more frustrating than someone you don’t want to be with trying to get back together with you. Let him know (in a nice, polite way) that he has absolutely no chance with you anymore. Maybe say something like, “You know that I’ll always care about you as a person, but I can’t see us ever working out as a couple.” Even if you don’t care about him, this will at least keep him from wallowing in self-pity about not being cared about.
7. Be honest without being BRUTALLY honest.
When dealing with an emotional guy, it’s best to sugar coat all of the rude or mean things you really want to say to him. The only time it is relatively acceptable to be brutally honest with him is if he really is not getting the point.
8. Assure him that he is still a good person.
Many times an overly sensitive boy will assume he is “unlovable” or something along those lines if a girl he is in love with tells him she doesn’t feel the same way. So if you have a heart, let him know that he will eventually find someone who DOES love him like he loves you.
9. Give him a hug and maybe a kiss after your talk.
This is just one final sign of affection after he has lost the girl he loves. Don’t give him a romantic kiss, just one on the cheek so he won’t get confused about your break up.
10. Leave once everything has been said.
There is no point in sticking around to hang out once you have broken up and settled everything. He probably will need time to recuperate from your talk and have “alone time.”
Keeping these ten simple tips in mind will make breaking up a lot easier and give you a place to start if you don’t know how to end things. Of course, keep your speech somewhat simple yet caring. Hopefully everything will end up okay and maybe you can even remain friends. However, with a clingy guy, it’s often hard to stay just friends because he’ll always want more. But remember, even though you may feel bad about hurting his feelings at first, this is for his own good. Maybe he’ll grow up a little and be less clingy in his next relationship. Good luck!
This article is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge. Content is for informational or entertainment purposes only and does not substitute for personal counsel or professional advice in business, financial, legal, or technical matters.
Clingy Bi Kid on January 10, 2020:
Hes so clingy and he always wants to hang out but i'm so annoyed because he doesn't want to kiss but he is very clingy #decided
Linda Rae on September 23, 2018:
I really appreciated H. MacD's comment. This is what I've been going through. I realize more now from H. that it would be a mistake not to end this relationship.
This guy is a great friend & fun to be with BUT he will not settle for just that...a good friendship.
lanalana nana on December 30, 2017:
guys are really clingy, whenever you bring up a space or take a break topic... they start being really sweet leaving you no reason to break up
H.MacD on December 03, 2017:
me and my partner broke up 3 years ago and I did it as nicely as possible and we met up for dinner once to see how each other was doing I hadnt even planned on getting back with him and then when it was time to go he kissed me and set another day to meet. That day turned out to be an inexpected date. Its now almost 3 years and we have a kid but I cant be with him any longer we are polar opposite and everything he does irritates me. His breathing him walking around his attitude hes a cuddler and im not and its annoying when im talking or trying to do something he budges in to snuggle and kiss its the worset thing ever.
Getting back together is a big regret for me and I keep trying to find a way to break it to him so Im praying this helps because im not good with people crying and with our daughter if he cries then she will and I cant deal with it.
The plan is to break it to him after Christmas so he can at least spend that together before our relationship status changes xxx
radaliendude on May 23, 2017:
I personally wouldn't recommend kissing them or any relationship likewise contact afterwards, it may make it worse.
This guy on April 10, 2017:
I wish my last girlfriend did this I'm still really sore about the breakup
Raven_FireFlame on July 25, 2016:
It will be hard to break up with him, we are both sensitive people. But, I NEED to break up with him because he tricked me and guilt tripped me into the relationship (he knows i'm a doormat),he also lied and broke his promises, and he has REALLY big anger issues. This advice helped a lot and I will be breaking up with him soon! :)
stuckinbetween on October 31, 2015:
ive tried to break up with my boyfriend but its so hard seeing that everytime i try to somethings going wrong in either of our lives
Fangirl on March 31, 2015:
This really helped ne out a lot. Thanks so much! :))
mermaid13 on August 24, 2014:
You should be honest and say," lately I've been putting all your emotions before mine and I usually do but right now I am putting my feelings first because they are just as equally important and should be discussed. I'm not happy and no its not your fault but you don't help it ether and its not fair to me or you to be together, I don't know why but I just don't feel the way I used to. I don't regret what we had. Everything happens for a reason whether it be permint or seasonal. Don't get me wrong im glad I shared that experience with you. But everything has a beginning and an end and this is our end.
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Some Guy on May 03, 2013:
You can also try saying, "I feel like this relationship has turned into a friendship more than anything."