10 Most Effective Tips to Forget an Ex

Updated on March 18, 2019
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Jenny is a girl who once failed in her relationship but found the courage to move on with her life. She is now happy and contented.

Forgetting Your Ex-Girlfriend or Boyfriend

Every failed relationship is painful. It hurts us in a way no physical wounds can...

I, too was heartbroken. I was so mad at myself for being such a fool and I almost hated the world for being so unfair. I wanted to slap just anybody, and wanted to be alone for a while (thank goodness I have no suicidal tendencies). I was emotionally tortured that time. I was crying while at work. And every time I hear the sound of some familiar love songs I can't help but cry my heart out.

I wanted to move on. I wanted to forget him as soon as I can (if only it can happen the next morning when I wake up) but I couldn't. Everywhere I looked, I saw him...there's just too many memories and I thought i would go crazy trying to avoid them.

Overtime, I've realized that it's not enough to just want to move on...I have to do something about it and I did. It wasn't easy I tell you. There were times when I was literally banging my head on the wall for being too weak to fight the urge to contact him and deleting all his numbers didn't help as well as I have memorized them. But as time went by, it became less painful until you literally can't remember how it actually felt. Fortunately, I was successful! Let me share with you the things I did and I'm pretty sure it will help you too.

1. Accept What Happened but Don't Dwell on it

It is normal to be upset, mad and hurt after break-ups especially if it's a third party issue. And you'd probably be mad for a long time. But if you stay mad you'd only stress yourself and you'd only make your world smaller. You have to accept that the relationship is over and don't even try to pick up the pieces because you'd only hurt yourself. Acceptance is the first step to moving on and getting over that stupid ex, so its time for you to make that first step. Once you've accepted it, don't dwell on it. Don't over-think and over-analyze things. Don't dwell on the "what'ifs or what might have beens" in the relationship. It's fruitless. Believe me, I've tried and it only made me feel worse than I have ever been.

Instead, choose to accept that it is over and stop thinking. It’s not easy, but you can do it.

A good way to deal with it is by journaling about your feelings. It doesn't have to be the best writing or even good writing at all. Just get it all out there. Imagine that as you write them down, the bad feelings and thoughts are leaving your body and sticking to the paper.

2. Let Go

The rule of every relationship is never ever be clingy. You have to learn to let go. I know it's not easy. Letting go is actually the most crucial and the most difficult phase of every relationship. There's just too many memories and forgetting these memories feels like an impossibility. Well, who wouldn't find it hard to let go? You have invested so much time, money effort and tears to make the relationship work out only to lose it in just a moment. Of course it's hard to let go! Who am I kidding? However, you also have to think of yourself honey. You ought to respect and value yourself more than anyone and being clingy indicates that your self value is way below the line. Do not cling to someone who doesn't see your true value. It's just not going to work.

3. Go Outside and Be Active

I understand that you want to be alone and I respect that. Everyone deserves some alone time with themselves and I'm not going to deny you that opportunity. When you are alone, you can think things through but don't overdo it.

Do not stay indoors for long. Go out. Enjoy the outdoors. Socialize with your friends. This will give you less time to think about your ex. Bask in the sun or go some place else with your family members. This will definitely give you a better view of the world you once lived in...the world without your stupid ex...Don't forget that you once lived without him/her so it won't definitely ruin your life now that you are back to where you once were... your life isn't over now that they're gone.

In addition, exercising, sunlight, and fresh air will help you become healthier which will make your body feel good. Soon enough, your heart will start feeling better too.

4. Don't Look Back or Imagine "What If . . ."

Once the relationship is broken, it will never be the same again no matter how hard you try to piece it back together. There is a reason why the relationship didn't work, and it's rare that the relationship works the second time around.

If the deal breaker was unrelated to the couple (like a job or just a minor misunderstanding), it's possible things might work out if the situation changes. But if you broke up because of individual differences or cheating, hon, you should think twice before getting involved with the same person again.

You need to look within yourself and be honest. If you think you can still trust the person wholeheartedly then go for it. But you have to be careful. Seriously—if he cheated on you once he’ll cheat on you again, that's for sure! What I'm trying to say is, it's better if you don't look back. Less conflict, worry-free and new possibilities for love and better life. Science have proven that once a cheater is always a cheater so do yourself some favor and look for someone else who would see your true value...

What I'm trying to say is, it's better if you don't look back. You will have less inner conflict, fewer worries, and more possibilities for love and a better life.

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5. Make New Memories

To get your ex out of your system, you have to create new memories. If you visited some places together in the past, you need to go to a new spot that you’ve never been before. Better yet, go to somewhere you went together but this time do it with your loved ones and friends. Eat foods you’ve never tasted before. Try a different sport.

Do something you never thought you’d do like bungee jumping, skydiving, ziplining, rock climbing, or anything else! If you create new memories, you will have a better chance at forgetting your ex, and in the process, you'll discover many more things that you are capable of, things you never thought you could do.

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6. Improve Yourself

You’re single. This is the best time for you to focus on you. Now, your money and time is all yours to take. Don't feel guilty about spending it.

Treat yourself. Go to a spa or buy anything to get you pampered like mani/pedi set. Buy a new set of clothes, shoes, and makeup. Give yourself a makeover as the strong, independent woman you are. Enroll in a culinary course and learn something new. Indulge in worthwhile activities like yoga, swimming, biking, and the arts.

As you improve yourself, you’ll build the self-confidence that was marred by your previous relationship. Being confident in yourself gives you a certain balance. It makes you feel good about yourself, and that's very attractive.

It also helps to have a role model or mentor, someone who you admire as a person. This could be someone who's also gone through a breakup and can give you some guidance as you're dealing with your feelings. Don't be afraid to ask for help if you need it.

7. Avoid Contact With Your Ex as Much as Possible

Your ex might still want to contact you even after breakup. If this happens, it will certainly make it harder for you to forget him. Be respectful but mindful of your needs. You can change your number (or block his), and delete his number from your contact list. If you memorized his number, you will really have to discipline yourself and do your best not to contact him.

Try to memorize other important phone numbers. Keep busy so you won't even have time to think of contacting him. In time, you'll be surprised that you don't remember his phone number anymore.

Unfollow him or block him on all your social media accounts, and delete all your old messages and emails so you don’t spend any time going through them. Make a new email address to make it even more effective. The urge to contact him will wane little by little until you don’t remember him at all.

8. Make Lifestyle Changes

Make a list of all the things you want to do with your life. What are the things that you could never do together? Did he hate boating because he got seasick? Go on a cruise. Did he always roll his eyes when you wanted to go dancing? Take a dance class!

Clean your room and throw away all the things that you associate with your ex like photo albums, gifts he gave you, old rotten flowers he gave you that you're still keeping as souvenirs, letters and birthday cards. If you have posters or pictures drawn on the wall with him, repaint your walls and redecorate your bedroom.

These are not easy things to do. But you have to move on, and removing these things as a memento of your previous relationship will help you forget him faster and for good. Challenge yourself to be strong and you'll be surprised at how easy and how fulfilling it can be if you're successful.

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9. See the Good in Yourself

Nothing is impossible if you are determined to really move on, but you have to help yourself. Make a list of all the bad qualities of your ex, the things you couldn’t stand about him or her. List all the reasons why you shouldn't get back together.

Then enumerate all of your good qualities, those qualities that make you special and worth a second shot in love. Make a list of your 100 best qualities. Don’t stop until you reach 100! Having these things written down will help you convince yourself that you’ve made the right decision.

10. Love Again

This is the ultimate way to get over your ex. Even though your past relationship didn't work, it shouldn't stop you from loving again. Try not to close your heart to a new possibility of a love that is better, bolder, and greater than the previous one. Smile and be hopeful. There is someone who is right for you, someone who will be thankful to have you, someone who will treasure and respect you more than anyone else.

You will find a new love that will make you grow more mature and inspired in your everyday life. And who knows, the next person could even be the one you decide to spend the rest of your life with.

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That's it folks. That’s my advice. If I was able to get over my ex, I am sure that you will too. Even though it feels like it, it is not the end of the world. There is still someone out there waiting for you who will find you no matter what.

Be thankful and learn from your past and use that to become a better and more lovable person. Realize that there are different kinds of people that we are meant to meet in life. Some of them are just passing by to give us lessons, some will make us stronger, some are meant to show us what real world is like and there are some who will stay with us forever.

Love yourself more and you'll see that new love is coming along soon enough.

This article is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge. Content is for informational or entertainment purposes only and does not substitute for personal counsel or professional advice in business, financial, legal, or technical matters.

Questions & Answers

  • What do I do if I still love my ex?

    There is nothing wrong with loving the person. Most breakups happen when you still love the person, but it just happened that the other party has done something irreparable like cheating, etc. Sometimes you just have to walk away even if you still have feelings for him/her because that is the right thing to do.

  • I can move on with someone else, but I always think of my ex. What should I do?

    If you still think of your ex with fondness, then you have not moved on at all. You are merely using someone else to be with because you probably don't want to be alone. That's what we call a Rebound, and that is not fair to the other person, so don't do that.

  • I love my ex to death. He wants nothing to do with me but tells me we can stay friends. He blocked me on Facebook. I cheated on him three times. I lived with him, but in March, he moved out and told me I couldn't go to his new place. What should I do?

    He did the right thing. If you cheated on him three times how dare you say you love him to death? Don't be a hypocrite, and let him move on with his life without someone like you. He clearly deserves someone better.

  • My ex dumped me about 3 months ago and the day after, he started to go out with another girl who I knew. He still keeps contact with me. I don't love him anymore but my question is, What should I do now, Like I'm sorta over him but every time I see a picture of him and that girl, I burst into tears. What can I do to be completely over him and stop feeling sad every time I see him with another woman?

    Moving on is never easy. I think what you should do first is to refrain from looking at his social media accounts or that girl's. Try to also change your number or delete him from your contact list or do something to prevent him from contacting you. That is the best way to help yourself move on...

  • I deleted all of his pictures and emails. I threw away everything that he gave me. I also deleted my social media accounts, but I still can't forget him. What should I do?

    Kudos for your bravery. You are one step closer to moving forward, but it is not going to be easy. There will always be that nagging feeling of wanting to check him out, and you need to be brave and strong not to do so. Go out and smell the flowers, as they say. Make new adventures with friends and meet new people; that's the next step.

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    Zzinox 

    2 weeks ago

    Me i was at my work, and my ex texted me a message she said hey after replying her she said that i have a request i said go on the she told me that lets breakup without a reason. Right now i feel bad but i think the good option is to let her go, i wish i never met her

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    Norint 

    6 weeks ago

    I feel like I need her 30% but 70% no ... When I'm whithout ... It seemed like my heart have no space and it's hard to breathe like a room whithout any windows. All I know she often not respecting to her promises to me and it really hurt me ... She becomes a hot blooded girl now ... So she only accept my apologies but when she done sth wrong , she just only say sorry and it kinda a forcing apologize not from her heart ... After this breakup she told my friend that i cheated on her ... I love my ex ... And I have a new one .... I was like WTF. -_-

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    Srabz 

    2 months ago

    I really need advice...

    My ex went in a relation already after one dsy of our breakup so i tried moving on and was almost there but he started reaching out to me in different ways syill i avoided him as much as possible then he suddenly starts calling me up and is like i love you i miss you and all and one day i went to meet him and he even cried for me but he wont even leave his gf either and sometimes he like only talks me to avoiding his gf and sometimes he acts different... I'm really messed up and my heart is just really out of my control...he was my first love and i really loved him alot... I really dont know what to do...

    PLEASE TELL ME WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO DO...?

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    DAZZWELL Malemo 

    2 months ago

    Well me an my ex we have been dating for a while now,we have been having some shitty miss understanding since December last year all of January it gotten we been fighting daily daily and he is the one who was the genesis of all those arguments,well he told me that this is 2019 and he isn’t getting back with the other girl,that was his 2019 decision but again he wanted us to Ben friends but me I didn’t want that bcz I loved him to death! I tried to fix things but on the 14th of February things worsen and we had a fight since then we haven’t even talked until now.now he is back with the other girl I don’t know.i have been thinking of him all along a day hasn’t passed he is on my mind daily I don’t even go to town bcz I don’t want to see him

    If a friend mention his name my heart beats so hard I still love him yes but I don’t want to get back to him I just want to forget about him please I need help.

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    Zambito 

    2 months ago

    My ex was my first relationship ever (my first love). We dated for about a year until it became too toxic. I broke up with him because he kept trying to have sex with me, and being too touchy. He also started arguments with me every day because he was obsessive and manipulative...so I ended it. I used my brain instead of my heart. But now my heart is still weeping over it.

    Since we dated for about a year, he got a new girlfriend on the 20th of January (we dated on the 21st of January) so it was very close dates. I felt replaced and as though he didn't care about what we had. The worst part of it all is that we're neighbors, he's about a ten-second walk away from me. I've been trying to forget him but it's hard. My heart still longs for him but my brain doesn't. He's a horrible guy who doesn't deserve me but my adolescent mind keeps wanting him.

    Then his new girlfriend's friend, who is my friend as well, told me something he told his girlfriend. "You're the only girl I wished was my wife," he told the exact same thing to me. I met his entire family (even travelled to New York and Pennsylvania to the family reunion), and yet, this new girlfriend he has only dated for 1/5 of the time we were together, he says the same thing to. It has been bothering me lately and I have no one to express myself to. I'm not depressed, but I have a feeling in my chest that keeps building up whenever I think about it.

    I wish we could have one last conversation together to settle things on a better note, but it's hard. I do not want to talk to him but at the same time I do; just to end my feelings for him. We do not stay in contact at all, but knowing he's dismissing the fact we ever dated to his new girlfriend makes me upset.

    Can anyone console me?

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    Patrick dale 

    2 months ago

    Ok so me and my ex have been broken up for about three months now but we been talking to each other all the time since but I stopped contact with her because I found out the first week we broke up she went on a date with some guy and then asked my best freind to have sex but I just now found this all out after 3 months I told her I knew she said she regretted the guy she went on a date with bc she could only think of me and she hated how she asked my friend to have sexual also she said it was an impaulsive move she said, she said in the first week or two I was in a I can do whatever I want state of mind and that’s the reasoning. What do I do, do I keep her cut off?

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    kkbf 

    2 months ago

    hi,

    I had been with one guy till 7 and half year. I did love him truely, but he was going to so many girls and did have phy. relations with girls and boys both. He was sexually obsessed. He started cheating me from the begining of relation, however i forgive him all the time. He did have affair with some girl in between and after he had affair i caught him red handed than he deny the affair and he said wrong name of that girl, even how they met was also wrong story. After i get to knw this i have done seceret marrige with him and than i left him alone that i dont want to be with u. Now he was not in contact with taht girl for few months and when i told him i moved on he went back to that girl and did officialy engament. which makes me crazy now that he really think that i would forgive him now and allow him to go with that same girl because of whom we was married and separated. Now i dont undrstand because from 7 and half year he pushed me that i want to do arrange marriage as per my parents wish. than how come he done love amrriage by his parent. his parents was not happy with this girl but they allow him. Nd i told him t o break this engment because i did not want him to go to this girl he can only do arrange marrige. I am confused and angry because he did cheat me like hell and broke my trust for tons of times.

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    Amari2011 

    3 months ago

    Me and my boyfriend actually broke up today idk what to do with myself were trying to work things out again

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    OLUSEGUN 

    3 months ago from NIGERIA

    This is good. Some find it hard to break from the past and through that they continue to injure their love life

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    Selby 

    4 months ago

    We haven't break up yet but our conservation its too dry , she seems to be in love with someone, she doesnt care about us anymore , she has already told m that our relationship iys boring her due to lack of quality time she used to understand that we are in a long distance relationship but now its tought everytime when we utter , she replies what i utter with cold words i already feel the gap , she always post inlove emojis, songs, she does give m time anymore. When i ask her does she still loves m she replies yes but i dnt c it . Should i continue wit her or i should 4gt bcoz i still love her alot but the relationship its too toxic

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    Jeorge 

    4 months ago

    That's too helpful, thank you so much

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    Sheree 

    4 months ago

    This articlw is great. My husband just left me on the day of christmas witout any hesitation. We have a heated argument before christmas day and i left home just to cool down. Whe I cAme back home he is no longer there together with his personal and important things. The saddest and painful part he is the cheating spouse and eventually he is the one who has the guts to leave the house. I literarlly sAw their sex video in his phone when ge cake back home from other country. Im so devastated and ruined. I cant accept the fact that my husband which all I thought a good man. I forgave him and gve him another chNce, beforw christmas I check his messenger and I saw their exhabge message like he wants her to look an aparment for him and he made plans with her. The saddest part he is telling the other woman what he thought of me negatively. I couldnt imagine my husband can talk somwthing like that against me.

    I came to a point i have had enough. I hve Asked him a million times what did I do wrong? Am I getting ugly? Why he is no longer intimate with me? Why he hardly hugs and kiss me? I sometimes blame myself why he flight. I was eveb thinking I am the villain in our relationship. For now I am davastated, in pain, torn, broken into pieces, and miserable. I couldnt eAt and I dont have enough sleep. I Our house is so dirty and i forgot to take care my business.

    I wanted to fix myself. As of now I am feeling the pain, It’s getting inside my heart, my mind abd eveb my vains. I always woke up from time to time and i always dreamed about him. Hearing him calling me. I don’t know what to do. It’s so difficult to get over him. It’s killing me inside despite kf his infidelity.... i’m dying

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    JustAnotherSnek 

    5 months ago

    Okay, but I still have to do a thing with him in acting. We'll be spending at least 40 minutes together every Tuesday(and we see each other all day of every week day). Please help.

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    amelia 

    5 months ago

    hi, i need your help

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    John Benson Snr 

    5 months ago

    Guys: Eat and drink all the best/healthiest foods/wines etc, do lots of sports/physical exercise often, look after your body/health, take holidays where you'll likely meet someone else, consign all photos/messages to a file that you don't look at until you have some one new and you're truly happy with them, block all posts/unfriend on social media, spend time looking after yourself, family and friends. Forget your ex -she's not coming back! If your ex messages be polite but brief, then simply tell her you don't want to be friends because it's over, you're breaking contact.

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    ioio 

    5 months ago

    hi,

    my ex dumped me but we have friends in common. they don't want to choose one side. personally I find a awkward situation but I don't want to be the one losing them. I am already the victim since he dumped me and now to loose also friends because of him?

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    Imane 

    6 months ago

    Thanks

    Your advices help me so much

    To move on and forget my ex forever and turn new page.

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    Invisible love 

    6 months ago

    Sometyms you love the person whom u cannot be with and it becomes really hard to be physically present for love...in case of obsession from opposite its better to leave for self integrity n respect

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    nimisha 

    6 months ago

    I just want to get over this as soon as possible

    this heart break really hurts

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    Susmita 

    6 months ago

    Thanks a lot....it will help me a lot

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    Dahdah 

    6 months ago

    What should I do when my ex text me and say I love you I been miss you even those he was not or don’t love me I mean he doesn’t love me but he keeps say that he loves me what should I do

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    Brook 

    6 months ago

    Wow

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    Angel 

    6 months ago

    Thanks for this. Im trying to help out a friend of mine.

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    Viola 

    6 months ago

    Hello, so seeing my ex move on with a girl that use to be my closest friend hurts. All he does it say how she’s so hot but he says he cares about me ?

    (Because we are still friends) and I don’t know what to do with this because every time I see him it brings back memories that I wish I never gave up on

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    Viola 

    6 months ago

    I broke up with my ex because he was doing drugs and bad stuff that I didn’t like. I still liked him SO MUCH but could bare seeing him do that type of stuff.

    He’s moved on with a girl that was my best friend (not anymore) , Him an I are friends but it kills me to see him move on and be happy when that couldve been with me ;( I’m not sure if I still like him but the more I see him the more feelings I get . Please help me . Anything will do .

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    Roman 

    6 months ago

    But if you have kids together and you keep on thinking about the great memories we all had in the past.Especially when seeing pictures.

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    meh 

    6 months ago

    just go for 2D girl waifu and everything is fixed. works for me

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    Tasha 

    6 months ago

    I want to get back with my ex and we both have partners still we can't forget each other and it's hurting us a lot and we love each other strongly what should we do?

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    Unknown 

    6 months ago

    She is my best friend,yes I'm friend zoned and now I want to get out of it. Even I know I can't just forget the moments and these daily calls but for me. I have to get out of friends one. Help someone

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    mishcadee 

    6 months ago

    I cant get him out of my head I think about him all the time. when someone asks how am i ? i just start to cry I want him so much it hurts.

    A woman told me last week she has been in love with him for a year and she saw him with someone else last week he is sleeping with.

    He was supposed to come home with me after the party but that woman told him she was worried her car was overheating so she needed him to go with her...

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    alison 

    6 months ago

    I left it with my ex a year ago, and we ended it well, because we prefer to be well as friends who constantly talk as a couple. The fact is that three days later, he rolled up with another girl, and after a week they began a relationship. I have had other boyfriends during this year and I've really detached my ex from my life and social networks. But I do not get it out of my head, I associate things that have no relationship with him to him because they have some detail detail that reminds me. In addition to when we send messages to see how everything goes, and it's still a super important person for me, but still with her girlfriend (the same as when we finished the relationship). and I can not understand why it keeps talking to me if he in theory is happy with another person. I think I am in love with him, what should I do?

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    Juveria 

    7 months ago

    I’m the girl who had never aver forget him or no one can make me to forget him becoz that my love is with me we broke up but we still stay in one place at one home he’s my cuzen I woke up and and look at him I eat with I go with him I don’t talk him lot but I stay in one home I have to becoz My family is big that’s why we stay togther now pls tell me to what to do I did all this things to forget him but again next morning I look at him and again all that come Infront off me

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    minister solo 

    7 months ago

    it has really taught me something as a counselor that i can also use to

    advice others who are also in the same problem

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    Lameen 

    7 months ago

    My boyfriend broke up with me,about 3weeks ago,he still comes to visit me at night he told me he doesn't want to lose me and that he still loves me,but also he doesn't want to be in a relationship,what should I do I don't want to get hurt again and I don't want to be rude cause I also still love him.

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    Elsa 

    8 months ago

    hi

    i cant get my first bf out of my life i still love him.i break up because he cheated on me with one girl for over two years when i found out i faced him and told him it was over.but i still feel for him i saw him at a friend's party yesterday all he had to say was that he wants us back together that he still loves me.all i want is to forget him because i have a strong feeling that all he is saying are lies .i just want to move on with my life but am unable i dnt know why please help me.

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    dj 

    8 months ago

    my girl friend always remember her ex in our conversation

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    Rauf abiola 

    8 months ago

    I always panic if i dont call her number.she always shout on me on her phone but my heart can not rest. What can i do about the panic of not calling her ?

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    Shreya 

    8 months ago

    How can i forget my ex when were in the same class...its really hard

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    Angel 

    9 months ago

    What if It was my fault but really I such need sometime but she got someone else can I use try it 5 years with really my first time tacking a relationship serious idk I n3d help idk what to do

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    Esther 

    9 months ago

    I can't forget my first bf for almost a year now that we broke up, I still can't let go off the feelings I have for him. please I need advice, and anytime I play love songs I just remember him and I love playing love songs

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    Josh Bailey 23 

    9 months ago

    so im still in love with my ex but its hard to forget about her because every song i listen to reminds me of her when ever i see her i just want to go up to her and tell her how i feel but i know she doesnt want to see me so what do i do :(

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    merhawi 

    10 months ago

    I was totally in love with her. I gave my whole heart . she was also in love with me. she made something that is really annoying . and now I want to forget her ? it became so hard to do that. I cry sometimes. what should I do?

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    Jennifer Gonzales 

    10 months ago from The Hague, Netherlands

    Hi Mindisachaous,

    The best way to deal with your struggle is to not have any expectations at all. Try to keep in your mind that people are different yet we all tend to have some general qualities in each other. Ty to be more open-minded and don't anticipate any thing regarding how it will turn out when you meet people. Don't compare them to your ex as well. If you make friends, do it for the sake of friendship and not because you are looking for someone you can be in a relationship with. That way, if you genuinely want to have a friend, you can be yourself easily and you don't have to think about other things. Just enjoy the friendship and if it leads to romance, then there you go. Clearly you are not ready for a relationship so don't force it otherwise nothing will go right for you. Hope it helps. Best of luck.

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    Mindisachaous 

    10 months ago

    Hai

    I would like to share my side. I have come to a stage i tried to move on from my ex. i tried by making new friends especially male friends. However, it doesnt last long for me as i realise they too have the particular traits that my exes have. Everytime i give chance to myself , i end up getting hurt again, again and again. Its so difficult to be happy not strong all the time. I just dont know what is going wrong entirely on my side. Whenever i have this mental tormentation, i decide to hurt myself but eventually i will try divert my mind out of this. Its so difficult to meet new people nor make nw relationships.

    Pls Advice.

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    Vanessa 

    10 months ago

    we couldn't pass any minutes without talking things were good then because he was living far it was not easy for him he works until weekends then he promised me to come to visit one weekend he didn't he said he went With his friends I felt so bad and I started texting him bad messages but I said sorry to him we started not understanding each other stopped visiting me telling me that I live far I used to hear so many telling me that he is not serious I started having insecurities there is another person also who told me about him he is with another lady (his girlfriend) I felt so bad I texted him very bad message telling him that it's over that we will never talk again I cried so much I blocked him unblocking him since then deleting his pictures again bring them back I really loved him so much but after he told me that he stopped liking me but when I ask him if he lied to me back then he told me he liked me so much and he told that he changed now they are happy and the family know knows his girlfriend he posts her now the thing is after breaking up with him another guy came along he started loving me I even told him I like another guy he went after me then I said let me move on with this guy we started the relationship but still I couldn't forget my Ex boyfriEnd who we recently used to talk and he Sven knows that I still love him so much but him he said he is in another relationship he can't help it and me too I don't know what to do it has been a year this guy loves me and he plans to marry me in the future I don't know what and I can't break with this because he can be Very and very hurt and i know I will never get another guy like hiM I wonder will this guy ever see that I was immature to listen to people and I have change can he ever come after sometime. Can I move on completely or I give him time to see that he lost me or what can I do to forget this guy forever and start loving my boyfriend with all my heart Who seems to never love another girl other than me and I'm his first love i am really confused and it hurts help please and I would ask if it is possible not to share this thank you I will appreciate it since no one helped me .. Can you help me?

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    Tony 

    10 months ago

    I have loved and been with this guy for over a year. We both stay in the university campus and I knew all he’s friends including he’s female friends. I ended up ending things with him because he had a going out problem but in less than three weeks I found out he was actually in a relationship all along with one of the girls I had thought were his “female friends” and they had been together for about 3years I feel so dumb and numb! The worst part is that he keeps telling me not to believe what other people say and I’m so shy I’m not even the type to go and ask the girl! Please help me I don’t know what to do

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    shuklasunny 

    10 months ago

    Me and my girlfriend were in relationship since last 1.5 years as we worked for same company . We used to spent almost all time to gather and had a very good understanding and compatibility/. we both want too marry as we were mature enough and earning good too.

    But i put marriage proposal to my parents they denied as my girlfriend belongs to different religion. I tried to convinced them but nothing worked out.

    i told the same to my girlfriend and asked her to be my friend at least but she said that she loved me that's why she can not be my friend.

    we cried a alot and very next day she blocked me on fb, whatsapp, linkedin, instagram everywhere. Every single day i miss her and used to cry . As we do have common friends , i got to know that she too use to cry for me .

    situation is same for for both of us . we didn't meet since last 2 months but missing each other badly .

    Her family is ready but i belong to very conservative family where love marriage it self is not allowed and my case is love + intercast.

    We both are mature and working in MNC and earning good as well ,

    Suggest please , what should i do as she can not be my friend and my parents are also not agreeing for this.

    Suggest please

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    Harshita 

    10 months ago

    A month ago i had break up wiTh him later on 3-4 days back he approached me .. Called me up. He was trying on me again .. Saying i love you .. Though i didn't respond at that time but the next day i met him and we had moment this thing happened to me again here i accept that it was my mistake .. And gain he is in my mind each and every moves are disturbing me. And now when again he got satisfy by his need he is back to his ignorance level .. Saying sorry i shouldnt have do that .. Umn it was mistake we met so now bye. Now i am again under that sort of phase that i was facing when we first had one i am drowning this is eating me inside just feel like kill him then and there. I feel like torturing him and stuff .. Jut guide me what to do .. I really feel like killing myself now after attempting such a big mistake

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    Thabitha 

    10 months ago

    I so greatfull Jennifer for all this tips ....they are helpful

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    Elizabeth 

    11 months ago

    Tnx Jennifer i will do the same

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    Shahid 

    11 months ago

    Dear Muslim friend try to Read quran n spend time performing salah everything will be alright

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    Rooshan 

    11 months ago

    Well said

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    hafsa musa 

    11 months ago

    i want to break up!!but love is a poison it breaks our heart...i feel part of me is not with me specially my heart i neeeeeeeeed my heart back.

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    Jennifer Gonzales 

    11 months ago from The Hague, Netherlands

    Very well said...

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    Mikae Yagi 

    11 months ago

    I think it makes a huge difference how you break up with someone. I just broke up with my ex-BF (actually dumped....) but we ended peacefully. We even said that we are going to keep in touch. However, I went ahead and blocked his numbers right after. I will delete all of our text messages and will also delete him from my contact list. I do not hate him, although he had not been very fair to me. I forgave him because that's what makes me feel better of myself. Now, I am planning to have new things to do, new places to go, etc. In the end, I can't control how he feels about me, but I can control how I feel about myself.

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    Jennifer Gonzales 

    12 months ago from The Hague, Netherlands

    Sometimes, Ethan, when we are caught up in our own happiness, we tend to overlook other's people's misery even if they are important to us. Don't blame yourself too much for your ex's unhappiness. It is her responsibility to tell you and be open with you about how she feels because that is what a mature person should do. I sometimes have depressive phases but very mild ones and that is because I am living in a different country with my boyfriend where people speak a different language and so there are times when I feel alone and lonely. But i always tell my boyfriend that. I am always open about what I feel and in so doing, we can both talk about it and find some solution to my problems...And it always work out. There's just nothing to gain if you pretend to be happy all the time...

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    Ethan 

    12 months ago

    I broke up with my ex gf cuz I knew what we had was unhealthy, but the memories wont stop and they are making me fall apart, ive had pleanty of gf's in my time but something about her was different, I was actually in love, i gave her my life, I moved in with her in a different city and restarted my life, I was so happy but I found out the hard way she wasnt happy, she told me she loved me that day and went off and I slept all day waking up to my mom calling me saying my gf was texting her saying she wanted me out and she was unhappy, she was scared to show me any sign that she was unhappy cuz she was worried on how I would react, she knew ive literally lost everything close to me and she was all i had, i just wish I would of noticed her being unhappy gradually instead of it all hitting me in one day, i always told her to only tell me she loved me if she meant it and she did say she did but then I found out it was a lie, I loved her so much and almost everything reminds me of her, I cant escape my memories and they are haunting me 24/7, im scared of what I'm going to end up doing, cuz i know im at my breaking point and im getting ready to snap, Idk if it will be on me or someone else, so much shit has happened, im done starting over, every memory from every person ive lost from bs is in the front of my mind and idk how to change that, ive tryed every method known to man. Nothings working, sometimes its just not meant to be for some people and nothing anyone can say can change how i feel, no words, no actions, my past will haunt me till the day I die and hopefully that will be soon...cuz trying is too hard

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    Ashi 

    12 months ago

    I broked with my ex 2 months ago but i want him back i just messaged him 3 days ago nd he blocked me even he said to my friend to tell me to stay away from him and to message anymore..i am just helpless ..now i wont to forget him.. i know i deserve more better than this ..as he cheated me before also nd it took 3 years to forget him nd aftr some time (4years ) he said he truly loves me somewhere i still loved him so i trusted him again .nd now again am alone with my feelings ..i just want to get over him and make him realize what he has lost..nd somewhere i still want answer "if he ever loved me ? Whtevr he said was that true? Or all it was a lie?" I want to scream i want to cry hard but cant .. please help

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    uknown 

    12 months ago

    i just break up with my gf because of difference religious. i feel really shit right now.

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    marwan 

    12 months ago

    thanks for sharing i will tray those thing i think about her all time i can t stop it she is gong to get maried

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    salma 

    12 months ago

    he is my classmate so thats really hard for me

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    claimel piastro 

    12 months ago

    it helps me a lot .thank you .

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    Erika 

    12 months ago

    i'm broken, please help.

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    Shy 

    12 months ago

    My boyfriend is mean to me after I cheated on him 3 times he calls me a retard and he just moved out with his friend we were together 3 years and our anniversary is may 12 th what should I do

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    Megan 

    12 months ago

    Me and my ex are still pretty friendly, and i am possibly falling for him again, i don't want to as i really really like another guy- who is caring, honest and kind! Btw i broke up with the guy, so i feel bad if i go back, i feel like my friends and family will judge me! But he's the only person i rely on recently and all of a sudden he's not bothering with me! And i don't know what to do because again i may have possibly fallen for him??? HELP?!?!?!?

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    Luis Leonardo 

    13 months ago

    Wow....this was the most reliable source so far...I’m glad I found this because is hard to live with this pain day in day out....things won’t be the same but our breakup was a choice made by according to her, GOD ..and I just got to accept that she’s not coming back....I want to move on but I still believe deep deep inside of me, a chance to make things right...thanks for the tips I’ll defintely use these tips to be a better me, my past is a dark one and I don’t want to go back....thank you for the help

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    ENM 

    13 months ago

    Hi i still love my ex your all right. I will move on now that i know how.

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    Richard S 

    13 months ago

    Shortly after my Ex broke my heart after another attempt to get her back, someone even better has entered my life. To make the long story short we are now engaged and she has helped me get over my Ex. My Ex has found out and appears to regret her decision to dumping me. Definitely don’t want her back.

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    Michelle Anderson 

    13 months ago

    Thank you for this advice to moving on my Ex.

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    chomu 

    13 months ago

    my ex-was always lied to me. he said to me that I don't respect him. he was very narrow. he never showed me his originality being in a relationship. he is too clever also.due to his lies I always got anger.I and my ex-are in the same batch. I used to see him every day. moreover, we don't talk to each other anymore since 8 months.he never put his ego aside in relationship. I always try to remain happy but from inside i am too much broken. how could I forget him?

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    Manogi 

    13 months ago

    Whoa

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    luke 

    13 months ago

    its been 3yrs since we broke up and we have our son so we keep on communicating just to sure our little boy dont feel empty or lack of family .. but until now im still suffering . dont know why. yes im mad coz she left me in times of trials to our relationship . but i miss evrything . i dont know if its hope that we might fix it . i dont know . i just dont know . im showing evry one around me that im ok . but srsly im not..for 3yrs im not ok .

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    Thabi 

    13 months ago

    Wow I truly needed this , I've been in a relationship for 8 year and the guy decided to cheat on me n leave me ,,, it so painful cause he lied to me ,,now m failing to move on, I dnt knw wat to do I feel like all the guys r the same

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    Madeleine 

    13 months ago

    Even more motivated in getting over my ex! The love I have for him he does not deserve it. Thank you!

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    abdihakim breezy mc'grath 

    14 months ago

    thank you for this ..

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    14 months ago

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    Sanika 

    14 months ago

    Thank you. Thank you very much. It is help full for me to forget my ex forever.

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    MELISSA 

    14 months ago

    THANK YOU,I HOPE I WILL BE ABLE TO DO IT

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    Alexa Veronica 

    14 months ago

    Thank you, you have no idea how you have helped me. Thank you very much.

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    lingani 

    14 months ago

    thank you

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    gladis 

    15 months ago

    well thank you. i think i can over my ex and i will try to move on and thank u very much

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    emma 

    15 months ago

    Thanks so much. I was really upset before cax the feelings just flood in. When I started copying ur words on a paper, ur words are healing and my heart received all. I will wait until my tears drain and hope well to my future.

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    priceless 

    15 months ago

    not that easy,but one has to move on...

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    Sunil Gaur 

    15 months ago

    I will try to follow your instruction but i am not sure how will i do it. it is very painful to forget our special one.....

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    Emmy 

    15 months ago

    Thanks for a nice article I'll try my best to move on in my ex

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    Jennifer Gonzales 

    15 months ago from The Hague, Netherlands

    I think the reason why it didn't help is because when you read it, your mind is just closed. this article would only wok for you if you feel that you are ready to accept that the relationship has ended..if you are not there yet, then of course nothing will work for you...

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    chris 

    15 months ago

    this article did'nt help at all thanks for nothing

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    Mk 

    15 months ago

    hi! thanks for this article I hope it would help me.

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    DARSHAINY 

    15 months ago

    I'm feel better now.thank you so much

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    Maria of phillipines 

    16 months ago

    Thank you for sharing reading your article as if u are talking to me ryt infront of me..

    while reading this i am coz u really hit me,

    thank you coz you open my eyes that i had to free my heart from pain

    i know he doesnt deserve me coz he cheat always and i do realise i need to wake up that idont need to hang on to our memories and the possibility og having him back in my life

    thanks for this article its a huge help for me God bless you

    i know there is lot more people who are in my situation

    thanks a lot

    Maria

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    I made a mistake 

    16 months ago

    I made a mistake and that caused me losing the love of my life, no I didn't cheat I decided to listen to my friends instead of my heart. I heard rumors and I believed them without talking to him about it and to be honest, this might be the biggest mistake of my life because now I don't have him with me and that sucks and I still love him but he deserves better not someone like me that could doubt him at any moment when he's telling the truth. I love him and that's why I have to let him go. I have my insecurities, yes and I had a lot of people betray me in the past which isn't an excuse for my behavior and why I should doubt him. I learned the hard way and if I have a relationship in my future I will make sure I don't make the same mistake twice. learn from me and trust your partner, talk to him/she about and don't make my mistake because it will hurt.

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    vishalkrdilla 

    16 months ago

    she came in like a wind and left me like a storm. I just wanted to watch over her my entire life but I was unsure of our future and she was expecting me to be confident. we were both unsure and we were living in the dream as she used to say. I was quite aware and told her that we are not going to end up together and saying this did it. I broke her, but she was strong unlike me. she held on as I requested to live the same lie for a while and waited for the right time. but as you all know it never is a right time to break up without any fights and all. but this time as she said lets break up as she can't live in the lie anymore, I again did not have the strength to tell her that this lie, this dream is gonna come true one day and our families will agree. but this time I was strong enough to let her go our of my weakness. she always told that I made her stronger. I will always love her and I know that she loved me too. thank you for the advice ma'am I hope I will get over her soon. I hope she would not cry for me now..

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    you just gotta move on 

    16 months ago

    like girls on here listen up

    you should never let guy treat you like dirt always be bitter in yourself like if he leaves you, it's there lost because they left the most perfect thing in the world...cheer up and move on

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    sradha reddy 

    16 months ago

    paste is paste.it is mad thinking about what is not our's now

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    kanjay 

    16 months ago

    Chuchay_ if you see this could you please reply why even after 5 years your not over its scaring me i feel like maybe i wont ever. What djd you do for five years?

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    Smartness 

    16 months ago

    This world have 3,821,915,263 boy and 3,755,118,677 girl.

    HOPE!!!!

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    Saga 

    17 months ago

    Life is all of to learn new experiences...I applied this to my life & I'm thanking God that the devastating past has left me...were today I'm achieving that I never thought of in my career....!!!

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    sunnyone 

    17 months ago

    Thank you! :-)

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    Kaisekarehindi.in 

    17 months ago

    Very nice article. It really feels good when we start loving ourselves more than the one who doesn't deserve. Nice tips keep sharing.

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    Roy 

    17 months ago

    Thanks for the article hope it will work,only that she my neighbour and we used to see each other every day,although it pains better her go!

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