10 Mistakes Women Make When Trying to Get Their Boyfriend Back
If you just got dumped and want to know how to get him back, you need to read on. I'm going to show you the Top 10 Mistakes Women Make When Trying to Get Their Boyfriend Back.
So, do you want to know what you're doing wrong?
Stop Calling Him (and texting, and emailing and facebooking):
Leave him alone. He ended the relationship and you need to let him be single for a while. It's very possible that he'll realize he doesn't like his life without you in it but he needs time to figure that out. If you're constantly contacting him, you're not giving him a chance to miss you and you're letting him know that you are still available to him. Don't show him that you're waiting for him to come back.
Stop Responding to His Calls & Texts:
Is he calling or texting you? Stop calling and texting him back. If he wants to get back together, he needs to make a grander gesture then sending a text saying What's up. When William and Kate broke up, she wouldn't respond to his phone calls and he had to seek her out. It's very possible he misses you and wants to talk to you. Too bad. He lost that luxury when he broke up with you. If he wants you in his life, it's as his girlfriend. Nothing else.
Don't Do Him Any Favors:
He has no right to expect anything from you. He probably relied on you for things like taking his dog for a walk or picking up his dry cleaning. Maybe you would go to his parents house and help them out or feed his cat when he was away on business. I know you miss his dog, his cat and his parents, but say no. He doesn't want a girlfriend, so don't be one. Let him see what his life is like being single. I bet it won't be looking so good.
Don't Give Him His Stuff Back Unless He Asks For It:
Did he leave his favorite t-shirt at your house? Forget his razor? So What. It's his stuff and if he wants it, he can call you and set up a time to come and get it. Don't call him telling him you have it and want to give it back because he'll see it as an excuse to see him. At this point he doesn't trust your motives and is going to misread most of the things that you do. If having his stuff upsets you, put it into a box and hide it somewhere. Or throw it out.
Don't Talk To His Friends:
Don't go out with his friends or casually send them text messages trying to get information about him. He will find out and it will make you look desperate and crazy. The reality is that if he's getting with someone else, you probably don't want to know anyways.
Don't Get Him Gifts (even for his birthday):
Do not buy him a single gift, card, baked goods, whatever. The only circumstances in which you are allowed to send him anything is if someone dies. Then (and only then) you can send him a card. Getting him presents is a needy attempt to win back his affections.
Don't Act Like A Psycho Bitch
Getting dumped sucks but don't go all crazy and start stalking him. You need to leave him alone. Don't validate his decision for dumping you. Keep your crazy locked up. It will only ensure that you don't get back together and you'll be dubbed crazy by all of your mutual friends.
Don't Have Sex With Him:
Do not for any reason have sex with him. You will feel like you're getting back together and he will feel like he has a sex buddy but doesn't have to deal with any of the crappy relationship stuff. If you aren't together, keep your pants on! If he wants back in, he needs to make amends and recommit.
Don't Worm Your Way Into Getting Invited to the Same Event:
You probably have mutual friends and will eventually end up at the same event. When that happens, it better be legit. If you're going out for beers with his buddies on wing night, he's going to know you're trying to see him. This will look like a desperate attempt to see him (which it is). The goal is to not do anything that appears desperate.
Don't Go Alone When Attending the Same Event:
When you go to a legit event that you were both invited to such as a wedding, memorial day BBQ, or Birthday party - don't go alone. You might hope that you'll run into one another and start talking like old times but that's a mistake.
You need to go with another guy that your ex doesn't know. Go to the party as friends and keep it cordial. Don't pretend to be dating if you're not because it will look fake. It won't matter if you're only friends because your ex now thinks that there's another man in your life. If he still harbors feelings for you, seeing you with another guy will make him reevaluate his bachelorhood.
So there are the Top 10 Mistakes Women Make When Trying to Get Their Boyfriend Back. While it's possible that you and your ex will never get back together, if you avoid making these 10 mistakes, you might still stand a chance.