I’m Having An Affair With My Boss, How Do I Defuse This Uncomfortable Situation?
How Do I Stop This Affair With My Boss?
I’ve been having an affair with my boss for the past month, and now he is showing favoritism towards me. Some of my co-workers are upset, in which they have their reasons.
His favoritism started at one of our team building sessions. My boss had ordered chicken wings for our Friday meeting, and he asked me to pick them up. What made the situation uncomfortable was that my boss strongly suggested that I drive his Jaguar. When I got back from running the errand, a group of female co-workers gave me the evil eye.
On another occasion, my boss made arrangements for me to join him at a corporate luncheon. The event took place at an extravagant resort, but all of my co-workers were asked to stay behind and work.
I’m not an outstanding employee, I can barely meet my quota for the month . Yet, my boss treats me as if I were employee of the year. The way my boss caters to me is unfair to my fellow co-workers, and this makes me feel guilty. The fact that my boss is married, only makes this situation worse.
My boss has been confronted several times by his employees concerning his favoritism towards me. My fear is that someone will file a complaint regarding this matter.
I need help on how to end this uncomfortable situation. I know some women would like to stone me, but I'm trying to find a way out.
I need to hear from women who can relate to what I'm going through. I'm searching for a way to end this embarrassing situation as soon as possible.
All Play And No Work
Most Marriages Are Made In The Office
Believe it or not, the office is where people meet. Statistics show that more marriages are made in the office than anywhere else. But then, a lot of marriages are torn apart in the office, as well.
A high profile office romance between William Agree, then chief executive officer of the Bendix Corporation and his executive assistant, Mary Cunningham, made national headlines years ago because many thought his “favoritism“ pushed Mary up the corporate ladder. Both left the company, married and started their own business together.
Most office affairs never make headline news, but they attract their fair share of office gossip next to the water cooler. The National Affairs (BNA) found it such a hot topic that it became the focus of a wide spread study in which many psychologists, corporate chiefs, middle managers and their employees were interviewed. The BNA found that office romances create an uneasy feeling, from top executives down to the common staff.
The BNA says, "The most disruptive case of office behavior and the most negative in its consequences, involves the boss and a subsidiary, especially when one or both is married. These romances cause jealousy and suspicion among co-workers. And can result in lowered productivity," Thee BNA goes on to say, “Such involvements can lead to charges of favoritism.” According to specialist who study office romances, some co-workers may feel abandoned by a boss who obviously sees one of their fellow co- workers as someone special."
Your Job Should Run Smoothly
Ask Yourself, Is This Affair Worth The Discomfort?
Center For Work-Life Policy
Research from the Center for Work-Life Policy show 15% of women have slept with their bosses and 37% were promoted for doing so.
A job that you love should run smoothly for the most part. Picture yourself as a conductor, rhythmically setting the tone within the work environment.
By having an affair with a married man that happens to be your boss; sets the wrong tone.
Libby if you are sincere about defusing this situation concerning your boss, I would strongly suggest that you hand in your resignation and make a clean start.
If you truly felt secure with your job performance, you may have never slept with your boss to begin with.
Make it clear to your boss, that he is not to contact you under any circumstances.
Move on Libby, and find a job that you have a passion for. Live a guilt free life by respecting yourself. In the end you will feel at peace with yourself and your circumstances.
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Now That You Honestly Expressed Your Feelings Why Not Talk About It?
Obviously you ran across this article because you are feeling uncomfortable about your ordeal. We don't need all the details, but perhaps you can express your feelings in the comment area. So far I only have Tom and Ann's feedback. Your response will help yourself and others.
The following clip is from the movie "Price Check", This movie showcases how most affairs in the office begin. I found this movie to be very entertaining and realistic.
Perfect example. 'Price Check'Parker Posey & Eric Mabius do a great job in this movie!
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