A Christian Perspective on Being Single

Updated on August 8, 2017

The Bible teaches Christian singles can have a singular devotion to Jesus Christ, thus having an advantage over their married counterparts. They can focus totally on the things of God. This single focus can result in greater happiness for singles as they are not distracted by marital obligations and issues.

It is possible to enjoy being single, but that doesn't mean you won't ever get married. Know God is in control and knows what is best. Enjoy being single. It doesn't mean it will last forever. It's just your state for the moment.

Perhaps one of the greatest fears single Christians face is being alone. We fear growing old, sick, and lonely. The idea of not finding a lifelong relationship is a very real fear. The mistaken belief singleness equals rejection can lead to insecurity and depression. It may help to remember Jesus was single, and although not married, He had many friends.

Unfortunately, society tells single people:

  • They’re incomplete without a partner.

  • Refraining from sex can be damaging and repressive.

  • People need to be married to be happy.

When we marry, we divide time between our spouse and God's calling. Singleness is an opportunity to develop character. What does the Bible say about being single? And how are we to understand God has designed the marriage relationship to be the most common human expression in an intimate social way?

God designed marriage and called it the grace of life, the gift of God fo fulfillment of most people. And marriage is the only relationship in which sexual intimacy can take place at all. But it isn't God's only design. God said there are those who should remain unmarried.

Unfortunately, many feel singleness equals rejection. Or society looks upon them as rejects. Being single isn't God's second best. Some find great fulfillment in being married, others in being single.

So, man and woman have a purpose in living; to populate the created world and rule over it. All of this has been completed. The world is now populated and it's not necessary to be in a marriage relationship.

Singleness isn't a condition needing a cure. It's as natural as being married. But contrary to popular opinion, not everyone wants to be married, although it it may seem difficult to be single sometimes. To be happy, wee need to take the first step. Eliminating negative thoughts about being single.

A good life begins by taking charge of the situation. Human relationships fall short of fulfilling our needs. We need companionship and solitude. Having no romance is one thing, but not having any friends is far worse. Being alone is a choice. Singleness produces loneliness.

Society tells us to find the right person then we’ll be happy. Singles as well as married couples are faced with the same situation. Actually, there are many single people not plagued with loneliness while many married people are. The truth is, happiness and contentment comes only from Christ.

Single and Satisfied

Many assume singles are missing out on something.
But in our misguided desire to play matchmaker, could we be going against God's Word?

It's true the Bible honors marriage.

"Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge" (KJV Hebrews 13:4).

Yet nowhere does it say being single is less than normal, desirable, or incomplete. It says the exact opposite, praising single-hood. There are many prominent characters featured in the Bible who were single, or widowed. For example, Elijah, Daniel, John the Baptist, Jeremiah, Paul and Barnabas, not to mention Jesus. There were also godly widows like Naomi, and Anna who was 84 years old when baby Jesus was dedicated in the Temple. Singles can feel like failures. We must remember the sacrifice by singles isn't merely giving up sex. But married folks provide an opportunity to have offspring of their own. There can be no greater earthly sacrifice. Many act as if being single is like having a disease.

However, if we look at Adam, we see him going about his life in the Garden of Eden doing what God told him to do. At first, he had no one. It wasn't until God said he needed a helper, he realized he was alone. This teaches, we as singles should focus on what God has called us to do.

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