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Older Woman/Younger Woman Relationship Dynamics

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An older lesbian/younger lesbian relationship is something truly special.

An older lesbian/younger lesbian relationship is something truly special.

An Interview With a Lesbian Couple

The older woman-younger woman relationship is perhaps the deepest lesbian experience you can have. Today we talk to a female couple with 25 years between them to get all the details of their relationship.

Maggie is a 19-year-old receptionist, and Louise is a 44-year-old piano teacher. They say that their older lesbian/younger lesbian relationship is the best thing that ever happened to them.

How did you two ladies meet?

Maggie: I decided to take piano lessons last year. Louise came highly recommended in her field. The person recommending her actually told me Louise was lesbian. I was happy about that because I knew for many years I was gay but I let very few other people know.

What attracted you to each other?

Maggie: Her warmth. She was so motherly and so reassuring to me. I was raised by my father and so I missed that whole bonding experience that other kids have. Well, Louise filled that void for me. I am kind of scared of admitting that because I think it will be construed somehow that I am messed up or something. But one reason I am attracted to women is because of that nurturing warmth.

Does the age difference bother you?

Maggie: I think it's ideal really.

Louise: It bothers me a little just because I know she has her whole life ahead of her and I don't want to hold her back from having a dynamic future.

Who made the first move?

Louise: Maggie looked deep into my eyes one day. I brushed some of her hair to the side of her face and I smiled at her. Then I got kind of bold and put my hand on her knee. We had a professional relationship with her paying me for piano lessons, so I moved my hand quickly away as soon as I remembered that. Well, she moved my hand back onto her knee. Needless to say, those piano lessons are free now!

Maggie: I was so happy when Louise touched me. It was like she was nurturing me through her caress. We got into a French kiss after that. That was so hot. I loved her tongue swirling gently around mine. I just kind of opened up to her. I knew she had all this experience to teach me, to guide me. I started to feel like I loved her soon after that.

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How is the physical relationship between you two?

Maggie: Oh my God. She makes LOVE to me. So tender, so passionate. I'd like to say we give to each other equally, but she pays much more attention to me than I do to her.

Louise: But that is okay, because I love you (speaking to Maggie), and that is how I show it to you. Of course, if you didn't have such a young body, I might not be so giving (laughs).

Maggie: But when it's time for me to reciprocate, I pay a lot of attention to her breasts. She nurtures me with them.

How open is your relationship?

Maggie: It's not open. It's definitely our secret lesbian affair. But that's kind of hot, right?

Louise: No one knows on my end either. I like having that privacy. Most people I know simply think of me as the lonely lesbian. If only they knew I have a hot 19-year-old girlfriend!

What do you see for the future?

Maggie: I want to be with Louise forever.

Louise: She is the best thing that ever happened to me. If I were selfish I would take that on, but I love her and I have to allow her to find her own way, even if it means she ends up loving someone else. That 20 years between us is no big deal now, but in 10 years when I'm an old lady, it will become an issue. I am a little hippie-ish that way. I think you should love someone only to the extent it will be good for them too. She would be hard to let go of, of course. The sex will be hard to let go of too!

The older woman/younger woman relationship among lesbians is often a special bond that is intertwined with maternal feelings. It is a bond that even some openly minded lesbians do not understand. It is also often kept in secret behind closed doors. If only those walls could talk!

Questions & Answers

Question: I am a fifty-five-year-old lesbian. I have been intimate with an eighteen-year-old gal. She wants to move in with me. What should I do?

Answer: It sounds like you are not wholly into the idea. I would weigh the pros and cons for the future (financial, emotional, etc.), as well as realistically look at how your lives would be affected regarding compatibility. Whatever decision you make, enjoy yourself.

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