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How Can I Find a God-Sent Husband? I'm Tired of Waiting

Updated on November 1, 2016
July 31, 2010
July 31, 2010

On July 31, I will be married four years. I am really grateful to God for blessing me with my husband. But it was a long, long journey for me to walk down the aisle. I can truly relate with all the Christian women who are waiting on God to send them a husband. That was me. You see, I married for the first time in my 50s. Yes, I was one of the rare flowers who refused to settle, and who waited an eternity to marry.

It troubles me when I see the desperation in Christian women and women in general these days. In the African-American community, it is even worse as the ratio of men to women is excruciatingly low. Where are all the good men we would ask? The common answer would be: he’s either already married, in jail or gay. When an available brother would join our church, all the single women would pounce on him like a piece of meat- like bees to honey. It is not surprising how commitment has flown out the window--these guys can have their cake and eat it too. Why? Because we allow them to out of desperation. Some of us just can't be without a man. Our worth is determined by who is on our arm.

We accept anything to not have to be alone. I refused to be in that category. Don’t get me wrong, I cried a many tear. I was hurt and taken advantage of in some situations, but in the end I realized that it was all a part of God’s plan for my life. So if you are amongst the single women in the world and especially if you are a Christian, here are my tips to be patient and allowing God to send your husband to you.

Get Busy Working for God

I was and still am very busy working for God. I found that when I was busy working, I didn't have time to feel sorry for myself because I had no one. If you are a Christian, you want your mate to see you busy working for the Kingdom. In the midst of my wait, my Pastor asked me to start a singles ministry at my church. At first I said no, but then God revealed that leading a ministry like that was all a part of His marriage preparation plan for me. I led our ministry for over 10 years. Leading the singles ministry showed me things that I had done wrong in my dating relationships. It helped me to grow in my relationship with God and as a person. It helped prepare me for marriage.

Let Him Find and Pursue You

He that findeth a wife, findeth a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord (Proverbs 18:22). If you want your husband to have favor, let him find you. Let him pursue you. It’s okay to show an interest, but these days, the art of pursuit is lost. Women these days will ask a man for his digits, ask him out and pay the way. No! No! Ladies…God created man to be a hunter. Hunting and pursuit is innate in his makeup. If you are doing all the hunting, you've taken away what God created him to do. Furthermore, if you are constantly pursuing, how do you know for sure that he’s just not in it for the ride? Let him pursue! Let him be what God created him to be. I've heard women say “well he’s taking too long”. Please understand and listen when I say that God wants the man to take the lead in relationships. He wants the man to pace the relationship. When women take leadership roles, we can expect disorder in our relationships because we are out of God’s order.

Work on Yourself

What are you doing to make yourself valuable in a relationship? What are you bringing to the table? Strive to improve yourself in education, career, finances and in your walk with God. If you want a Godly man, then you must become a Godly woman. If you want someone debt free, then you should become debt free. You attract what you are. Can you cook? The old adage, "the quickest way to a man's heart is through his stomach" is true. Just as man was created to hunt and lead, women were created to nurture. Feeding your family is a part of nurturing. Learn to cook the basics and then expand your skills. Take this time to prepare so when he is presented, he will see your worth.

Don't Waste Time on Relationships That Aren't Going Anywhere

If you know this person is not husband material, let him go! As I got older, I did not have time to waste in relationships that were going nowhere. My common line was "I don't think I'm the right person for you". It was better than saying he wasn't the one. Trust me, God will not send you someone if your hands are already full. Why should he? Empty your hands so you can fully receive what God has. Don't waste your time.

Pray for Your Husband Now

Pray for your husband. Whoever and wherever he is, start praying for him now. Pray that God will make him what he needs to be for you and to make you what he needs as a help mate. Pray for his career, his decisions, his finances, his relationship with God.

A mutual friend introduced me to my husband. They were attending the same church which was a different church than I attended. She was led by God to introduce us. As it turned out, we already knew one another- we went to high school together and had not seen each other in over 30 years. During all that time, God was preparing him for me and me for him. It took a long time, but you know what--it was worth the wait. You can be assured that if you wait on God, it will always be worth the wait.

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      Rebekah 3 weeks ago

      Wow! This is a great article and so inspirational for women like me. I fear being physically alone forever. It's nice to hear these tips from a Godly woman.

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      Shanny 8 weeks ago

      Sis, what a wonderful story. I have been so discouraged as of late, since being saved almost 1 year ago i have not even been approached by any men. I have such a desire to be married and have more children (I have a son). I almost feel as though i am being punished for my previous decisions, i am trying my best to to leave it to God as i know he is the one who has placed these desires on my heart.

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      Karis 2 months ago

      Sister, I've read a lot of articles like this but somehow yours just stands out. I could relate to you and appreciate your straightforward, grounded way. I praise God that you found a good man after waiting so long, and you challenged me to do what I used to do, pray for my hsband NOW! Thank you and blessings on you!

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      Dee 3 months ago

      The downside of waiting that long is thr inability to have children. Thats great that you found your husband but unfortunately you cannot have children for waiting that long. Its okay that if you never wanted kids

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      Angie Morris 4 months ago

      I, too waited on God to send me a mate. I was 34 when I married and we have been married for 21 years. Every day I become even more thankful I waited on the Lord as I watch more and more marriages crumble. I loved your article. I have a friend in California who is still waiting on the Lord for her mate and she says all of the single men there are either gay or surfers who are broke! Thanks for posting.

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      natchi 4 months ago

      very encouraging story please pray for me too even i am waiting for GOD fearing husband..

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      Elle Li 4 months ago

      Awesome Sis! Thank you!

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      Maria 4 months ago

      Beautiful

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      Sonya G 4 months ago

      After reading this, I realize no mater how much he says he cares about me, if he can't find time to call, he dose not want to talk to me. I'm heartbroken, and realize what my friends have been telling me for a while now is true. I kept making excuses for him not calling and coming to see me. I thought he was the perfect man for me, still do except for the part about never seeing him and rarely getting to talk with him. I know God has his perfect man for me. I just have to wait on God's timing.

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      Natalie 5 months ago

      I feel forgotten by God and that He has no husband for me. I feel like He is ignoring me and not listening to my prayers for a husband. I am 27 and never been kissed or dated. I hate that I haven't had my first kiss yet or first date. I feel ugly, not beautiful and invisible by men. Men never notice me or ask me out on a date or want to kiss me. I feel like God has called me to be single my whole life and doesn't care if I ever get married. I would love for a man to tell me I am beautiful. No one has ever told me I am beautiful before. I feel like God doesn't care if romance ever happens to me, He doesn't care about my first kiss, my first date or my wedding day or my wedding night. It is hard being a virgin waiting for sex. I feel like no man will ever think I am attractive and want to marry me. I feel like no man will ever love and accept me as a vegetarian. I feel like something must be wrong with me. I would love to kiss a man and I would love to go on a date with a man too. Romance never happens to me. No man is ever going to pick me to be their wife. It will never be my turn to get married. I feel left out and that God doesn't love or care about my desires. I feel like God doesn't know how much I would love a husband. I am beginning to feel like my prayers for my future husband aren't working and what is the point of praying if God isn't listening to me and never going to answer my prayers. I am ready to meet the man that God has for me and to get married.

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      Sn 6 months ago

      I am tired of praying for a good man. I am now 49 and men have stopped calling to me. Wrinkles, sagging jowls forehead wrinkles. My time has expired. God sucks

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      Miriam 6 months ago

      awesome

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      Anonymous 6 months ago

      I've been praying for a husband for forty five years. Forty five! And let me tell you that I began at the tender age of 14 so there it is.

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      Audrey 7 months ago

      Dear Sister,

      Thank you for your encouraging words. I've been crying all day. I'm 53 years old. Thank you.

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      Louisa 9 months ago

      Hello, that article was so interesting and encouraging.

      I am 33 years old and I have been single for a while now. I gave my life to Christ in 2013 and since then I am waiting on him to send me my husband.... it is a bit wary at time.

      I just wonder something, I have a type of men that I am into physically so I do mention that to God in my prayers but I wonder if He is not going to bring me someone totally different so my question is should I still have an "ideal" (type of men) or not? Thanks ladies and God bless each and everyone of you. Louisa

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      Savannah 9 months ago

      Thank you so much for this! I've been dreaming of my husband since I was in the 8th grade I just turned 30 and I'm still single not a man in sight. Your story was encouraging thank you! God bless

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      GardenofGreatness 2 years ago

      SavvySyi -- Why don't you have any confidence in yourself or your husband?! That's just sad to be honest. It takes two. If you think your husband is that weak minded then are you sure he's a good one? ;-)

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      Millicent chiku 2 years ago

      I hav a oneson and i need a God fearing man

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      Rainchild 2 years ago

      Thank you!

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      Cecilia Rose 2 years ago

      I'm around 23, I've made that mistake of seeking out a man to keep me happy. I was in love with the idea of being in love. Which led me to have kids young and be in an abusive relationship for 6 years. When I finally gotten out of it. I started rebuilding my life. I tried my best, started working, etc, I had a lot of things to work out and work on. And from my previous relationship I was still feeling unmotivated and would feel as if I wasn't ready for anything, I was by myself for over a year, had tried dating a person who was totally wrong for me, he pursued me, but It was as if I had to teach him how a relationship works, and how to treat the other person, cherish them. So I ended it. I have 2 small boys as well, and he seemed to accept them, but kept them from his mind, so knowing they were there but not really acknowledging them. After this relationship. And I accepted this relationship with the attitude of why not, no harm in trying. But I felt nothing for him. After I ended it, I went back to being by myself. But I enjoyed being by myself. I've enjoyed it for over a year. I wasn't seeking anything, I knew what I was then looking for. I decided to keep waiting, I was in no hurry, and I hoped God would send me the one who'd accept me for who I was. This is when I met my Fiancé, It was online through our mutual love of gaming, he lives in Europe, while I live in America. I didn't think anything of the situation, he sent a request to be friends, I accepted, and we started our conversation about a game we were playing, we spoke for around 5 hours plus straight, we said goodnight shortly, and I thought, ok this is it, going on as usual. The next day he wrote to me again, and we spent the rest of the day speaking as well, I wasn't interested at first, I thought he was interesting as a person, but I was defensive when It comes to relationships. Little by little we opened up to each other, I was pouring my heart out to a person I hardly know, I was freaking out, why was I being so open??! It was so natural, I was smiling everyday, and he was a Christian as well! We had the same morals and he was a kind and generous person. Shortly afterwards he asked me out, I usually prefer to take things slowly and wanted it to take more time. He did lead on this, and I was having trouble with this, because i'm very independent, and had issues with controlling men. But I let him lead, I trusted him 100 percent and didn't even know why. All the barriers I put up I let him pass. He's moving to America soon, has made all the steps to do so, I'm so nervous to meet him, he calls me when he can (due to our time differences.) He leaves me a message for me to read when I wake up, He adjusted his schedule to spend as much time talking with me as he could. (He is owner of his business, which allows for him to adjust his schedule.) We talk every day. And we fell in love, I thought I was in love with my kids father, but it was fake compared to what I feel now. His feelings are mutual, he's only 2 years older than me, but it feels as if we share the same soul, same morals, same beliefs about almost everything. He's 25 and isn't thinking about partying or hanging out with friends 24/7 or what usual 20 year olds are doing and thinking of, I feel he's at the same maturity level as I, who had kids young, and had to grow up fast and be responsible. Though we both have childish tendencies in humor and fun, Like finding it fun to go run off to ride roller coasters and such. I have a strong feeling that this is the person God has chosen for me. He even wants to Marry accepts my kids and loves children, and even wants more. This man reached out and said, I know you have stuff to work on, but i'll be here to support you. Is this what God intended?

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      Evans4life 2 years ago

      Trina- Good for you. Be sure you are not turning away your gift from God. He uses other people to introduce us to the want He wants us to have. You read my story. Be encouraged and thanks for stopping by.

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      Trina F 2 years ago

      My situation is this.

      1) I have never had a desire for kids.

      2) I have prayed and asked God to give

      me the desire for kids if it's His will that I marry and have them, and to take away my desire for a husband if it's His will I stay single.

      I have not lost the desire for a husband, and I still don't want kids.

      Hmmm. So I am patiently waiting on God, and unless He reveals that He has other plans, I believe he is preparing my husband, while at the same time

      preparing me for marriage.

      I also am content in the mean time.

      I will continue to walk with God, as He is my priority.

      By God's grace I have not settled.

      People try to " help" me and set me up,

      sometimes mothers want to push me to be with their son, but I want to know that it's GOD'S will and God's choice for me. I am willing to wait as long as it takes, until I meet the man that I KNOW is the right one for me, and he'll

      KNOW I am the right one.

      The Holy Spirit will lead us.

      Praise God.

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      Evans4life 2 years ago

      First let me apologize for taking so long to reply. It's been a crazy couple of months for me. Next- start this year off with a new gratitude and appreciation for life. Activate your faith. Just as God brount your late husband into your life, he will bring another if you trust Him. Cast all your care upon Him because He cares for you. Thanks for stopping by.

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      Anney 2 years ago

      I'm struggling to survive. My husband passed away 10 yrs ago and I still feel like half of my body is missing. I'm tired of people telling me to forget him, he's gone, you have to move on. Its like telling the wind not to blow or the sun not to shine. He knew all the bad things about me.. and he loved me anyway.

      I'm trying to connect with God, but it's difficult. I don't blame Him for my husbands death. I just don't know where to begin. I have been studying on my own, then I have sin full thoughts and feel guilty. I just want to feel whole again.

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      Evans4life 3 years ago

      @In pain- You can do all things through Christ! Focus on your purpose in Christ and not your pain or that man. He will raise you up in due season.

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      in pain 3 years ago

      Reading all of the posts I sincerely pray that the almighty continues to work through our lives. I am in a very unhappy situation about a man I am fully aware is the wrong man for me. I pray for strength every day to walk away from his presence, heal and prepare for that healthy encounter that I know I deserve. I am in a very dark place struggling daily to feel worthy and I just ask for prayers as I work towards regaining my happiness, health spiritually and physically and hopefully one day begin the journey of preparing myself for my husband. Blessings to all.

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      Evans4life 3 years ago

      Right now your husband should be God/Jesus Christ. Any longings you have now are out of his will as he has not provided you with a husband yet. Redirect your longings for Christ. Thanks for stopping by.

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      Annette 3 years ago

      After reading most of these comments I stopped feeling sad about my situation. I see others have been waiting a lot longer than me. I'm 24 yrs old. I'm a journalism student graduating in May of next year. I keep telling myself after school is over and I have more free time, my husband will come. I'm not sure why I keep telling myself this like it's true! A couple of people mentioned literally having cravings for their husband. That's exactly how I feel! I literally yearn for him. I know I have to stay patient and work on myself before I add anyone else into the mix but I just can't shake this NEED. I NEED my partner. I can hardly deal with being without him. I have feelings like I miss him. Like I've known him before or something and that I already love him so much. I don't understand it. It's pretty maddening to be honest. It scares me to read everyone's stories of waiting for 20 or 30 years. That scares me. Or being married for 10 or 15 years and having their spouse cheat on them, causing them to start the entire process over! How horrifying! Sometimes I just want to go home already. When I see other people in happy relationships it makes me feel so sad sometimes. I know I don't have it as bad as others. I date regularly and I have friends. I wouldn't say I'm lonely. I have a big, loving family. I'm content with my direction in life. I don't feel "lost". I just miss my husband and I want to be in his arms already....

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      Evans4life 3 years ago

      Lovingman1966 and bobbeth- Seek God and let Him direct your path in love. Thanks for stopping by!

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      bobbeth hanniford 3 years ago

      Am 42 am seeking of my soul mate am lonely

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      Evans4life 3 years ago

      Hey Jason, You are right, some of us don't want or need a man but underlying it all they probably has had some negative experience in relationships where they have just given up. There is someone out there for you.. keep trusting and believing. Thanks for stopping by!

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      Jason 3 years ago

      There are just too many mean and stuck up women nowadays that are making it very difficult for many of us men trying to find love, and we are certainly not to blame since most women don't even want a relationship anymore.

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      thuo susan 3 years ago

      Await one of my part god preparing me one day at a time aim a single mother of two girls aim29age pls god remember me to have a home I divorce one I try to save .my home now I tell my god pls God give me second chance like ayufh

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      Evans4life 3 years ago

      Reality- Thank you for your comment and you are definitely entitled to your opinion, however, I'm not sure what your opinion is. I teach people to live life to the fullest, be happy and complete whether you are married or not- make lemonade out of lemons. It sound as though you believe God is not concerned about our daily lives...when in fact, according to the Word, he is concerned about us. You believe what you want and I will believe what the Word tells me---and let's see who has more peace of mind. Thank you for stopping by.

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      Reality 3 years ago

      God does nothing. If there is a god it is surely divorced from the minutia of our daily existences. If there is a god it is the waking, conscious universe and that is not conducive to giving people to people. We live short, very short lives and have just a small amount of time to enjoy existence. There is no evidence that help will come from elsewhere, for now we must take the responsibility, and prove to the waking conscious universal God whose name is charity and compassion that we are not small minded, pitiful, spiteful, hateful, selfish things.

      The only sin is living backwards, stagnating, never growing or questioning or seeking. Go out there and look for something, and even if it isn't a man or woman that finds you, if the answer you get is a small peace of mind that allows you to see what you have in front of you, then it was worth it.

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      Evans4life 3 years ago

      Yes! God will forgive you if you are truly and Godly sorrow. Godly sorrow means that we will give up the sin. Since he is your daughter's father, you are connected for life, but you must find a way to keep the relationship just that. I'm praying for you. Make up your mind to release him in your heart so you can receive who God wants for you.

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      Lala 3 years ago

      Will God forgive me if I had sex with a married man. The man is actually my daughters father. We were together 4 years before he unexpectedly got married to a women he bearly knew. We definitely have soul ties that hasn't been broken. I feel so horrible!!

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      k0rl0 3 years ago

      I am facing some challenges right now. I recently broke up with my ex a couple months ago. I have come back to follow God's will for my life since I was living in sin with my ex. I began dating him because he had a Christian background and attended church and I felt loved by him but he left me twice before. I struggled so much but I leaned on God and years ago God promised he already had someone for me and when he came into my life I would just know. But it's so hard and I'm 27 and just every relationship went wrong. He has called me into ministry that I am still preparing for but I honestly can't seem to shake off my ex. I had already handed everything into God's hands and my ex came back asking to be part of my life because he said he saw how positive I was but of course family and friends told me to tell him to leave me alone. And since then I can't shake it off and I want to contact him deep down inside. I guess honestly maybe I experience doubt because there's no way God would allow someone who is for me to just walk out a couple of times before and then when I'm positive now and full of God's life to try to come back in and have me make the mistake of just letting him go this time around, right? Deep down I'm scared and do wonder, what if he came back to want to stay and be with me and I just pushed him away? If he was the one then he would have fought for me harder and not let me go when things weren't easy and when "I wasn't at my best"

      Maybe I wish he would have never came back to stir up all these feelings if he wasn't the one for me after I was already moving on...

      But I do realize I have a ministry calling and need to fulfill that first maybe while God also deals with my internal issues for when God actually does want me to have a partner.

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      Evans4life 3 years ago

      Summer- Enjoyed your vent. Keeping holding on. You appear to have the right frame of mind- keep your focus on others, on ministry. In due time, he will come. I hope you enjoy your summer, Summer. Thanks for stopping by. Share the hubs with your friends. Visit my blog at http://evans4life.net and shop at our online store...http://evans4fashion.com

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      Summer 3 years ago

      Still waiting, still holding on. I hate making my life centered around this but its always on my mind. I want to be more involved in ministry but I'm still in school for a little while longer then I get to be a counselor :-) I think it will really help me focus on other things when I'm helping people. I saw this guy online.. been looking at his profile for yearsss.. He seems to be a male version of me but there is only so much you can tell about a person without talking to them.. I finally did, he never responded lol. Was a little disappointed but hey God knows, cares and sets up a divine appointments. It's really confusing at times because it almost seems like the non christian ones think I'm gorgeous and are always interested and the christian ones who seem to have the same values with me seem really picky, which is good of course. I would just love to at least start a friendship with someone who has similar spiritual convictions about God to show interest of some kind. SIGH! Just venting. Holding on. Pray for me! Will definitely pray for all of yall!

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      Evans4life 3 years ago

      You are a Princess in God's eyes. Remember that! It's hard, it takes faith and patience. Stop focusing on what you don't have and focus on the things of God and your girls. Sometimes when we take our eyes. Stay in touch and thanks for stopping by. Share my blog with your friends...evans4life.net and visit my online retail shop, evans4fashion.com

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      princess 87 3 years ago

      I am a 27yr old single mother. I work and go to school and take care of my girls. Lord knows I don't understand why I can't find somwone to talk to? I've tried dating site and still no luck.I'm starting to lose hope and get frustrated. Lord please help md to undrstenf

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      Evans4life 3 years ago

      @trob- so sorry. Maybe it's your mind set. Try to be positive and grateful. Thanks for stopping by.

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      trob 3 years ago

      The only thing thid blog did for me was make me depressed and angry.

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      Evans4life 3 years ago

      @nnennaya- Although I don't understand what a white garment church is, my advice is to do nothing and wait for God. Go out have fun with friends, work on making yourself valuable and enjoy life. Singles fail to realize that a lot of freedoms you have now will be lost when you get married. Take this time to appreciate. Keep your eyes on God and not on your friends. Thanks for stopping by. Share my blog evans4life.net and my online store evans4fashion.com with your family and friends.

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      nnennaya 3 years ago

      I am a confused young lady am 3Oyrs am even crying as am typing this, after reading ur article "Don't Waste Time on Relationships That

      Aren't Going Anywhere" I realised I actually wasted my time. I was in a relationship for 1Oyrs he kept telling me we will marry but at the end he said his parents won't support him getting married to a lady that attends white garment church. Now am so disorganized, heart broken and regrets is the order of the day. I have no place to go no one to turn to and am of age even getting too old as every body around me reminds me to go and marry that all my friends are all married. Plz what do I do?

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      Evans4life 3 years ago

      @Ben. Sorry you think this is nonsense. No I don't believe in Santa, I believe in God. Thanks for stopping by!

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      Evans4life 3 years ago

      @steffsings, Great advice! Thanks for stopping by.

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      Ben 3 years ago

      Are you kidding me? Why do so-called "intelligent" people still believe in such nonsense? I suppose you believe in Santa as well?

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      steffsings 3 years ago from Pacific NorthWest

      Good information. It's important that women and men get involved in doing good, kind, helpful, fun things rather than focusing solely on... 'when is Boaz finally going to arrive'. Might as well enjoy life and use the wonderful spiritual gifts we have now, then If/when a man/woman arrives, there will be lots of good things to share.

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      Evans4life 3 years ago

      Thanks Vera, I can't tell you how many of these spell caster stories I get. I delete them all. It is unbelievable. I appreciate you. Thanks for stopping by.

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      TK 3 years ago

      @Vera

      I'm not sure your story is relevant for this website. It appears most people here are looking to God for help and not someone who casts spells.

      God bless you and I wish you the best.

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      Evans4life 3 years ago

      Monica- Singles events can be very depressing if you're are not in the right frame of mind. Be encouraged. God knows your heart's desires. Be faithful to Him and He will honor faithfullness. Thanks for stopping by. Share my websites with your friends. evans4life.net

      evans4fashion.com. God bless you!

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      Monica 3 years ago

      Thank you very much for your very encouraging testimony. I was feeling very down these past few days and recognize it as an attack from the enemy. The straw today that put me in tears was going to a singles event that was a reminder of the "same ol" I was so discouraged and it was depressing. I reminded myself to get rid of my pride but had a difficult time holding back the tears. Thank you for the reminder to pray for our husband and to know God is faithful!

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      Evans4life 3 years ago

      Rae, You have to tell him. If he has been open with you, you owe it to him to openup to him. If this is God's blessing, you don't want to keep secrets now. This is what the foundation of a good relationship is built on...truth and openness. If he runs away, he is not the one anyway. Prayerfully have a conversation. Trust God. Stay in touch and thanks for stopping by.

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      Rae2Rae 3 years ago

      Thanks for such a great article! I too am waiting on a godly man, but in the process of waiting and not having sex for a number of years, I found out that I have the what's thought of as one of the "dirty woman's disease". I have herpes and am devastated to know that I have it. I particularly don't feel as if any man would want to marry someone who could possibly spread this to them. I recently met someone who wants to get to know me and he was very open about his issues on our first conversation. I always shy away from men who have so many issues in their lives, but for some reason, I feel like God may have given us this chance meeting because we would be able to lean on each other at times. I don't know how to tell him I have this disease and I don't feel like now is the right time. I don't plan on having sex with him anytime soon, but he was so open with me about his issues. He wanted to put everything out on the table to see if I would run the other way.

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      Evans4life 3 years ago

      Mary- What a refreshing testimony. Stay strong in The Lord and in the power of His might. He will blow your mind. Thanks for stopping by.

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      Mary 3 years ago

      I am glad o find such an inspiring article. I am almost 33 years old and have never had a real relationship before and never had sexual relations. I have dated and such but have never found a man that I wanted a relationship WHO ALSO wanted a relationship with me. I have decided to leave this one up to God. He knows what I look for in a spouse.

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      Evans4life 3 years ago

      Jane, Thanks for stopping by. Be encouraged!

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      Ann Leavitt 3 years ago from Oregon

      Thank you! Great article and much that I have always practiced and believed over the years—but very good to be reminded of again. :)

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      Yaxi 3 years ago

      I am a man of 31years. I am single at the moment. I am definitely looking for a soulmate. If u are interested plz contact me on +2207523844. Or email goldenyc2000@yahoo.com. Everything is in the hands of God. Let God brought us together.

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      Evans4life 3 years ago

      What a great testimony! You can't go wrong with a friend. Hopefully, if God says the same, it will develop! Stay in touch!

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      Anne 3 years ago

      Hello,

      I would like to thank you for the wonderful encouragement you gave me regarding the boy I felt drawn to at church and at school. I finally plucked up the courage to say hello, and I am happy to say we have become pretty good friends. It's all in God's hands now. Thanks again, and God bless :)

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      Evans4life 3 years ago

      anonymous- you don't have to stop writing. I would love to continue to hear from you. You are still healing from the loss of your husband. Continue to surround yourself with Christian friends who love you and want what's best for you. I want the same for you. Be strong. Stay encouraged. Come back real soon.

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      anonymous 3 years ago

      dear karen-

      in the last note that would be the last one- but in response to your e- i thank you. yes you are right- i am a christian, i was going thru a hard time due to my husband not being here. he is with the lord. we were married for 30 years, he was a blessing to me. the truth is i missed him and was having a hard time being alone. i did meet some chrisitan men and i only love my husband. i probably will remain as i am, i loved him very much, he was my man, he is the lords and he is with the Lord.

      thank you for your ministry. i happened on it as i was grieving last year,

      you are a good christian- keep following the lord- i will as well. i love you. god bless you- see you in heaven.!!!! The Lord will see us all through!!! tonight i received a word from the Lord as i was reading his word- it was not about a husband by the way- lol- and later i saw ran into a christian sister i had not seen since my husband and i saw her years and years ago.she is remarrried and her husband is good for her- they are christians and we just started fellowshipping . they want to get together with me. i still have married friends that i still see. so- i still love my husband. i love the lord. GOD IS GOOD. have a great day- see you in heaven.

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      Evans4life 3 years ago

      anony,ouss:, I am not a prophetess or a fortune teller who can tell you the future. God is in Control. If you have a personal relationship with Him and are in tune to the leading of the Holy Spirit, then the answer will be revealed to you , not me. God answers prayers according to His will. It is important for you to find out what His will is for your life. The word says He gives us the desires of our heart so when I said he will send another, I stated that based on the Word. You have to know the Word for yourself! Sorry if I mislead you. Thanks for stopping by.

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      anony,ouss 3 years ago

      hi this is the 3 or 4th i sent in a row and it will be the last- last year you did say : in his time he will send another" husband that is- is that the lord?? will god send me another husband is all- i do not want to be rude- i am just wondering what- what was what- you said in his time he will send another, is that the lord or not- thanks

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      ANONYMOUS 3 years ago

      Proverbs

      trust in the lord with all your heart and lean not unto your own understanding…in all your ways acknowledge him and he will direct your ways.

      we are accountable for our words.

      we have to pray for others and speak the words of the lord. i am thankful and glad that i know who to go to for counsel and wisdom. i have found people for that. they have been gods helpers for me. i am a woman of god and endeavor to speak gods wisdom.thank you for your wisdom. MAY THE LORD BE PRAISED!!!!Halleluiah!!!God continue to bless and keep you Blessings to you.

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      anonymous 3 years ago

      yes god is good i have peace,

      last year you said that in his time god would send me another husband, you did not say that now- why is god going to send me another husband in his time like you said?

      THAMKS

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      Evans4life 3 years ago

      God is good. He hears you and knows your heart's desires. It is very tough watching your mother suffer. With God's strength, He will carry you through and over. I'm praying for your peace.

      Please visit our blog, http://evans4life and for a shopping pick me up, visit our store http://evans4fashion.com. Share these sites with your friends and family. Thanks for stopping by.

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      anonymous 3 years ago

      Add Your Comment…hi- last year i wrote and told you i was widowed dec 2012 as my husband of 30 years was called home to be with the Lord.

      i miss him. it is getting better each day but i pray for other widows, it is not easy losing one's other half even if one knows that the other one is in heaven with the Lord but with the rod's help,it is comforting and a blessing to know their spouse is in Heaven with the Lord. someday we will be re-united and it will be glorious, but for now i am still a little sad sometimes. i go to church, pray and read the bible and help others- see friends, and work. it is good. my mother is very ill now and i do not know how much time she has on this earth. i pray for the lord to take her home in his time.

      also- my husband had told me in the past that i would remarry. i do not know if this will come to pass, i just want the lord's will. i seek him and it is new for me to be alone but i am adjusting. bless you and bless everyone out there. god is good.

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      Evans4life 3 years ago

      Nia- keep your eyes on the prize...Jesus Christ! Please share my post as well as my other blog, http://evans4life.net with your family and friends. We also have a church clothing website at http://evans4fashion.com. Great clothes! Thanks again and stay in touch!

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      nia 3 years ago

      Wow thankyou i just got comformation someone else told me something similar from your post.. But i will tell you iam not getting any younger37 single never been married.. my focus is letting the lord

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      Evans4life 3 years ago

      Nia: You cope by resting in The Lord...by giving your desires to Him and trusting Him with them. It's easier said than done, but it is a process. You have to cultivate your trust in Him by studying the word and praying daily and not focusing on what you don't have. Enjoy your life and focus on doing you! Leave the husband up to God. Thanks for stopping by!

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      nia 3 years ago

      I love our heavinly father sometimes my faith is not there when it comes too finding a husband.. Ive been going too church off n on trying too live right.. It is soo hard because i attend too get side track into my flesh.. its was too the point i was dating but for some reason GOd would remove these guys out of my life .. now i have got too the point i don't want too meet anyone because they wont stick around.. I do want my husband iam tired if being alone. At times when i see my child father with his babymama i do get jelious and i have got teary eyes. But i kñow he isn't for me.. How do i cope with all these different emotions. Wanting too get right with the lord and wanting that special man in my life...

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      Evans4life 3 years ago

      Stay encouraged. Get in the will of God and enjoy the ride! Stay in touch and thanks for stopping by!

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      mbabazi jane 3 years ago

      it has been so encouraging, actually i have been actually confused on what to do cos i thought years are going and yet people who comes on my way i feel they are not and yet i really need God''s will for my life cos it is where my happiness is hidden. am so glad to have read your message. may God reachly bless you. am starting now a new journey and He is with me.

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      Evans4life 3 years ago

      Gail,

      May God bless you with the desires of your heart. Be encouraged and keep the faith. Know that His will is what's best for us. Stay in touch and thanks for stopping by.

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      Gail T. 3 years ago

      I was working on something for ministry and stumbled on your site...GOD is soooo amazing, after reading your testimony I began to weep, you see I am in my 50s and the encouragement I got from what I just read allows me to know I am not forgotten. It is Truly a blessing to read this biblical advice with the world going so against our beliefs. Again I say thank you and more importantly thank GOD for using you in a such a time as this.❤️❤️❤️

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      Evans4life 3 years ago

      The man that God has for you will honor you and appreciate you singleness and celibacy. It will be music to his ears. Be encourgaged! There is nothing wrong with you. Continue to seek God and work on yourself. Sometimes men can perceive our lack of confidence and self image and it drives them away. You have to know your worth in God and exude confidence as a daughter of the King. Thanks for stopping by.

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      About to Give Up 3 years ago

      I have waited for over 2o years and God has not sent me anyone. I can't even get to date wrong men, because no man will ask me out. Christian men are not attracted to me. They like me as a friend, but they always go for someone prettier, younger and more aggressive. I am friendly but also shy. It has been so long since I dated, I feel awkward if a man would ask me how long have I been single and celibate. How do I explain I have not been in a relationship for 20 years because I have been waiting for a Christian man?

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      Evans4life 3 years ago

      Seeing that you two are in groups together, why not just introduce yourself as a friend or Christrian Sister. The best relationships are built on friendship. Once you are friends, he should be the one to take it further. You can never go wrong with friendship. Keep me posted and thanks for stopping by!

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      Anne 3 years ago

      There's a boy who I've taken a strong liking to at church, but unfortunately we have never been introduced. He goes to the same University as me, as well as the same christian group. He seems like a very Godly man, as he hosts his own bible studies and very involved in evangelism at my school. I find myself drawn to him very much, and I would like to get to know him better, but I don't know if I should introduce myself, or if I should leave it be. Would that be considered pursuing him? Should I just wait for God to introduce him to me?

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      vanessa martin 3 years ago

      I'm seeking GOD for a spirit fill save husband i am 59 year of age it's been seven years and i made some mistakes. i need gods help thank's

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      Evans4life 3 years ago

      @Steve..I think the priniples are the same for men---God wants man to be whole and complete until he is presented his wife. Adam was created complete but God said it was not good for him to be alone...He would make a help mate suitable for him. The word "suitable" is the key. Men have many choices, but the choice must be suitable. Until you meet her, rest in the wholeness of Jesus. I applaud you. Thanks for stopping by.

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      Steve 3 years ago

      What about many of us good innocent men out there that are hoping to meet a good woman to make her our wife? And many of us men really hate going out all the time, and we can never meet a good woman to settle down with since we hate so very much being alone too. I certainly will admit that i hate being alone which is the reason why i will go out every single night just not to be home by myself, and that makes very much sense to me. If i obviously had a loved one to be with, then i would had been home with her.

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      Evans4life 3 years ago

      @Barbara...Amen. Thanks for stopping by.

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      Barbara 3 years ago

      @ Think: When women chase or pursue men they open themselves up in a very negative way. The man then becomes the acceptor not the leader or head it is a role reversal straight from the devil, just like feminism. Ladies if you put a man in the position to accept you or reject you what makes you think he will be honest with you. How many honest men have you actually encountered that will say sorry I'm not interested in you. Mainstream society promotes women pursuing men to be married, have kids, become engaged, indulge in fleshly pleasures, etc. ....but are those women happy -NO they are not nine times out of ten. SO Ladies, do not take this persons advice continue to seek God through Jesus and His perfect will for your life and the rest will be added to you in due time.

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      @think@ 3 years ago

      Women,ladies, here is something for you to consider. You, as the gender, wanted to be treated equally to men and now you are, somewhat. You, ladies, have the same apportunity, if not better, to get educated and find yourself a career. You also have an apportunity to eat right and lose weight, if needed. If you don't want the fat guy, what makes you think that the guy would want the fat girl? It is actually discusting to look at fat people, let slone make love to them, medical conditions aside-besides, if you have medical condition because you're fat, your fault. Also, just because you are the female does not mean that guys will want to date you. Ladies, you wanted equality and you’ve got equality. If you are not dating or finding anyone to meet with, it is your fault. You have the vocal cords and the mouth with lips, which you can use by asking the guy out on the date. Again, you wanted equality and here it is. The only difference between male and female is their sexual orientation. Do not expect guys to always ask you out because they will not. Next, if you’re anything over 25 years old without the career and the degree, education, you’re not brining anything worthwhile to the table. Ask yourselves, if you want the successful man to date, what makes you think that men will want to date you if you’re not successful ? Ladies, you can take this as the fact or, twist it any way you want to personally satisfy your self image. However, facts still remain facts regardless if you want to believe it or not.

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      Evans4life 3 years ago

      Jah,

      The Bible says the power of life or death is in the tongue. You have spoken defeat into your life. Sometimes we just aren't ready. Sometimes, we ignore signs, sometimes we are just desparate. Try to learn to be content in whatever state you are in as Paul says. That may speak life into your situation. Thanks for stopping by. Stay in touch!

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      JAH 3 years ago

      I am 36 and divorced with no children. I was married to an abusive, gorgeous yet evil animal. I would lie in bed reading the Bible at night while he watched porn. He eventually slept with my friend and a neighbor and desecrated our marital vows. I was left on my face before The Lord in excruciating pain. We divorced.

      Fast forward a year later I meet a man I fall in love with. He is divorced with 3 small children. I fall in love with him and his kids and willingly take on the roll of step mommy. He promised me he'd get his vasectomy reversed and then he proposed. Two months after proposing he calls off the engagement and goes on a drug binge with my brother. I am once again abandoned and devastated. Four years down the tube. Again. Almost 37 and still childless. And abandoned by another man I have my heart and soul too.

      I come from a long line of preachers. My great grandfather, grandfather and uncles all Southern Baptist Preachers. I was raised in the church. I know and love God but I am SICK of having my heart torn out of my chest while watching all my friends pregnant with their 3rd child and happily married. Yet most of them aren't even Christians! I watch the blessings of family with others and while I used to be happy for them I am now bitter and jaded and angry. Angry with God for abandoning me just like the men I loved.

      I don't care what anyone says. I am so sick of praying for my husband and going on one disastrous date after another. I'm to the point of giving up. And having children is a joke at this point. Beyond jaded.

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      Sunshine 3 years ago

      Ladies, check out my facebook page I just created so that we can encourage each other while preparing to be Godly wives. I pray everyone will seek God first in everything.He never disappoints

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      lauren 3 years ago

      Thank you all for your posts! This was just what I needed to read today!

      I left my husband 6 months ago this month. He physically and verbally abused me until I had no choice but to take action. I am only 19, but since I was 13 I've known that my calling was to be a mother and a wife. I prayed at that time that the Lord would reveal to me my husband, but quickly grew impatient. At 17 I started hanging out in a chat room where I eventually met my husband.

      I am so confused. My heart aches. My son is such a joy, but every time he says "dada" I just want to cry because his "dada" is not here. I have acted desperate. I have even gone on dates, but I am so terrible confused. I do not know God's plan for my life.

      I haven't divorced my husband because part of me hopes we will be reunited. At the same time, part of me feels he is not the one God intended for me. How could he be? I am the one who initiated everything. As far as I know God had no part in my marriage. I wasn't even married in a church!

      I don't where to turn. I don't know how to confirm that our marriage is over. And in the meantime, my heart aches. Because I am terribly lonely. I have no one I can talk to. I have no one I can laugh with or cry to. I reach out when my heart just hurts beyond belief, but I don't feel comforted.

      I know God is working in my life. He blessed me with an amazing job. I am a high school graduate with no work experience and I have a job I could NEVER have gotten on my own. He has provided for me.

      I just don't know anymore.

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      Evans4life 3 years ago

      Inhistime--love the name. What a great testimony. Forgiveness is a healing balm. It releases God's power . Trust God for your Boaz and God will answer prayer in His time. If you haven't already please read similar articles at our personal blog...http://evans4life.net. Stay in touch and thanks for stopping by.

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      Inhistime. 3 years ago

      I have been sitting here for hours reading the blog, your testimony as well as the comments. Thank you so much it has really helped me. Im almost at the 1 year mark after my break up. It still hurts, this is what brought me back to the Lord and it feels so good to be back. This man abdomen me and our children for his ex. It didn't seem real, but I can say I'm not where I was a year ago..Giving all the glory to God, who has been by my side throughout this entire storm. I no longer hate my ex and his ex, it was so hard but I forgiven them, though he doesn't even call the children(his only kids) I still positively speak about him to the kids. Please keep my children and me in prayer as this journey has been the hardest thing I have ever faced, but as long as God is on my side, that's all that's matter. I'm optimistic one day I will meet my Boaz, in the meantime, I'm doing God work. Blessings to you all.

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      Evans4life 3 years ago

      Amen Summer! I try to delete those postings right away. I plead the blood of Jesus on this site!

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      Summer 3 years ago

      I come boldly against this Spell casting nonsense in the name of JESUS! The bible says that when the devil comes in like a flood the spirit of God will rise a standard against him. A standard has been risen against the lies that's being advertised by this Doctor Dave. The daughters of the Most high God will not give into desperation. We serve a God who calls things into existence. The God of Abraham, Issac and Jacob. Omniscient and MIGHTY is he. We choose to boldly wait on God through the guidance of holy spirit! I pray that you will turn away from this deception and submit to the true and living God who is able to save you! Only the God of the bible is able to restore a relationship. Our trust is in him alone. Father please confound the minds of your daughters that they may submit their thoughts to you and not allow the enemy is whisper thoughts of hopelessness in their minds. Cover each one of us your precious blood I pray in Jesus' name! Amen

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      sar #wngsh 3 years ago

      @evans4life: Thnx for your reply, i feel the same but also i really need God's guidance on this, please pray with me, and also i pray that God gives me the right partner for my life, am finding that i can't even concentrate in church coz am not happy in my heart can't say that am bitter but just feel out of place in church coz i feel like am being looked at as desperate which makes me sooooo uncomfortable.

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      melly 3 years ago

      @evans4life; Amen, and thank you very much, may you be more blessed.

      @summer; I agree with you by 100% about signs. Signs alone are very confusing. The devil used signs to trick me and thereafter confuse me. I will not advice anyone to rely on signs alone but rather combine evaluation of fruits of the spirit, the Word of God and discernment by the Holy Ghost (wisdom).