On July 31, I will be married four years. I am really grateful to God for blessing me with my husband. But it was a long, long journey for me to walk down the aisle. I can truly relate with all the Christian women who are waiting on God to send them a husband. That was me. You see, I married for the first time in my 50s. Yes, I was one of the rare flowers who refused to settle, and who waited an eternity to marry.
It troubles me when I see the desperation in Christian women and women in general these days. In the African-American community, it is even worse as the ratio of men to women is excruciatingly low. Where are all the good men we would ask? The common answer would be: he’s either already married, in jail or gay. When an available brother would join our church, all the single women would pounce on him like a piece of meat- like bees to honey. It is not surprising how commitment has flown out the window--these guys can have their cake and eat it too. Why? Because we allow them to out of desperation. Some of us just can't be without a man. Our worth is determined by who is on our arm.
We accept anything to not have to be alone. I refused to be in that category. Don’t get me wrong, I cried a many tear. I was hurt and taken advantage of in some situations, but in the end I realized that it was all a part of God’s plan for my life. So if you are amongst the single women in the world and especially if you are a Christian, here are my tips to be patient and allowing God to send your husband to you.
Get Busy Working for God
I was and still am very busy working for God. I found that when I was busy working, I didn't have time to feel sorry for myself because I had no one. If you are a Christian, you want your mate to see you busy working for the Kingdom. In the midst of my wait, my Pastor asked me to start a singles ministry at my church. At first I said no, but then God revealed that leading a ministry like that was all a part of His marriage preparation plan for me. I led our ministry for over 10 years. Leading the singles ministry showed me things that I had done wrong in my dating relationships. It helped me to grow in my relationship with God and as a person. It helped prepare me for marriage.
Let Him Find and Pursue You
He that findeth a wife, findeth a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord (Proverbs 18:22). If you want your husband to have favor, let him find you. Let him pursue you. It’s okay to show an interest, but these days, the art of pursuit is lost. Women these days will ask a man for his digits, ask him out and pay the way. No! No! Ladies…God created man to be a hunter. Hunting and pursuit is innate in his makeup. If you are doing all the hunting, you've taken away what God created him to do. Furthermore, if you are constantly pursuing, how do you know for sure that he’s just not in it for the ride? Let him pursue! Let him be what God created him to be. I've heard women say “well he’s taking too long”. Please understand and listen when I say that God wants the man to take the lead in relationships. He wants the man to pace the relationship. When women take leadership roles, we can expect disorder in our relationships because we are out of God’s order.
Work on Yourself
What are you doing to make yourself valuable in a relationship? What are you bringing to the table? Strive to improve yourself in education, career, finances and in your walk with God. If you want a Godly man, then you must become a Godly woman. If you want someone debt free, then you should become debt free. You attract what you are. Can you cook? The old adage, "the quickest way to a man's heart is through his stomach" is true. Just as man was created to hunt and lead, women were created to nurture. Feeding your family is a part of nurturing. Learn to cook the basics and then expand your skills. Take this time to prepare so when he is presented, he will see your worth.
Don't Waste Time on Relationships That Aren't Going Anywhere
If you know this person is not husband material, let him go! As I got older, I did not have time to waste in relationships that were going nowhere. My common line was "I don't think I'm the right person for you". It was better than saying he wasn't the one. Trust me, God will not send you someone if your hands are already full. Why should he? Empty your hands so you can fully receive what God has. Don't waste your time.
Pray for Your Husband Now
Pray for your husband. Whoever and wherever he is, start praying for him now. Pray that God will make him what he needs to be for you and to make you what he needs as a help mate. Pray for his career, his decisions, his finances, his relationship with God.
A mutual friend introduced me to my husband. They were attending the same church which was a different church than I attended. She was led by God to introduce us. As it turned out, we already knew one another- we went to high school together and had not seen each other in over 30 years. During all that time, God was preparing him for me and me for him. It took a long time, but you know what--it was worth the wait. You can be assured that if you wait on God, it will always be worth the wait.
This article is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge. Content is for informational or entertainment purposes only and does not substitute for personal counsel or professional advice in business, financial, legal, or technical matters.
Nay88 on July 25, 2020:
Christian woman 49, no children, great cook, awesome homemaker, established career, looking for loyal man who loves the Lord and wants to love me too as his wife.
I am 37 on March 21, 2020:
I am 37yrs I don't hv child trusting God for a husband a God fearing man loving en caring person
Armmy on February 14, 2020:
I'm 29 years with a 2 years baby boy,looking for a serious partner,35yrs to 45,I'm kenyan.
Armmy on February 14, 2020:
Female,29 years with a two years baby boy,I'm looking for a serious partner aged 35- 45yrs,God fearing,I'm in Kenya.
Kamukuru Irene on November 13, 2019:
Praise God, im a God fearing lady aged 34 I'm looking for a God fearing man age from 37 to 45
My name is Oluchi. on November 04, 2019:
Female, a Nigerian, a lawyer and am 37 years old. I need an engineer as a soulmate who is between the ages of 37 to 40, and is ready to be a husband this year.(A God sent kind of man)
TANJIM ARAFAT SAJIB from Bangladesh on September 28, 2019:
I believe that people have no power or capability to change other people's behavior, lifestyle, mindset, ideology, thinking etc. And it also true that people can not live so long happily without a partner. Every educated society believe in marriage and family. And it is also proved that family is the only safe place for the children and those people too who are lived in that. So before start a family you need to get a good husband or wife. You can not changes others so you have to choose someone who are too close to your thinking, understanding, ideology, similar culture etc. Compromising, sacrificing, believing are important to continue that relation too.
alen on August 23, 2019:
i wat a gud husbad from here ok
Caroline ambundo on July 16, 2019:
Am 39years widowed with 3 kids.but needs a serious Christian man.real ,simple,holy ,loving,caring ,smart and loyal.might be a widower or older than me.
Pammy Jacque on May 11, 2019:
I really need a serious man in my who’s also longing for a life time partner like I do
Charity on April 30, 2019:
I'm 32 with ababy boy lneed Aman of God 0703464499
maurine on February 16, 2019:
Am 21 i only have one baby girl i need someone to marry me not old than 35 yrs 0743842676
SadlySingleGoodMan on February 13, 2019:
Well being single as it is has so many disadvantages for many of us men that should have been married already with a family that many of us definitely would have wanted, and it is the big change in the women of today compared to the past which certainly has a lot to do with it. And with so many feminists men hating women nowadays really does add to the problem as well unfortunately. Years ago the great majority of the women were very old fashioned and real ladies which made love so very easy to find back then with no trouble at all either. And now that so many women have their careers today making a six figure salary which they have that i am better than you attitude which makes it a real shame for many of us good men really looking for love now. And to think years ago how different women were back then which is why finding love today for many of us men is like looking for a needle in a haystack.
Single forever on February 04, 2019:
Have y’all noticed every story similar to this starts off the same way? It’s like God bypasses all the good women who serve him and the community. Yes I know God knows best but I am being honest, I am starting to research other religions because I have not been a successful as a Christian.
christian woman on January 12, 2019:
Thank you so much for this article. It's healing to read especially going through a break up where you let someone go because there was not future. I love how you didn't settle. I feel so may of us are marrying for the wrong reasons. Also, I wanted to add that my pastor actually had a pic on an overhead projector in church. It was a mouse trap with a mouse entering it with a helmet on. This was his reference to online dating. He said go ahead and enter we all have free will but you will get hurt. It's not god's way. He wants us to find like christians who have the same morels and family values. I also wanted to point out that Facebook is responsible for 1/3 of today's divorces. So be careful. All the best to all of you amazing, strong, beautiful women out there.
fizzyjow on January 04, 2019:
Hi! I'm Nthaty. 25 years old with a 2years baby boy. I am looking for someone who love and care for us not someone less than 30 years
A Person on December 26, 2018:
I like most of this minus some potentially dangerous mindsets. I understand the whole Hunter thing, but taking the lead reminds me of the fundamentalists, where whatever he says goes and he can dictate you, even getting away with abuse because he can claim 'you're not submitting'-even those verses used as support are apparently misused/deliberately mistranslated by sexist monks back in the day. I also understand working on yourself, but what about signs showing that he'll Truly work With you and won't betray you with lines like 'I paid for this so f--k me' or 'I provide/treat you right and you don't appreciate/are ungrateful.' I'm just Very tired of experiencing such filth with males--they don't care about honoring their wife or God, they just want to look good to everyone else, hiding behind misapplied Bible verses. They Don't care about You as a person, just want you under their control then blame 'feminism' if you dare stand up for yourself or point out their bulls--t. Males don't love God, only themselves, and I'm tired of being told to forgive instead of seeing Them punished for breaking me. It hurts so much that none with a kind heart exist, who understands how dangerous the world is for a woman, that I just want to die. They'd rather defend their porn than 'their woman' from Any type of harm.
Wale Ogunsowo from Nigeria on September 25, 2018:
George maina on September 16, 2018:
lm single poster want a person 20year girl
George maina on September 16, 2018:
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JaseJnr on September 02, 2018:
nacy on July 28, 2018:
Help me in your PRAYERS please.
nacy on July 28, 2018:
My sister your story is so encouraging, in my waiting for God's intervention i have passed through a lot shame and humiliation but i still know that God is working out for my answer.
Ck on July 26, 2018:
Pray for me
tannaz on July 25, 2018:
Hi im tannaz i have 20years old but i really want make family.i cant stop beacuse i love babes and family
Courtretort on June 22, 2018:
Read about women like Ida Scudder and Amy Carmichael. Sorry, they are Caucasian, but that doesn't matter. God had major calls on their lives they could not and would not have answered had they been married. Scudder had the opportunity but chose the call. Google them.
Fortunately I had an aunt who was a nursing professor and was probably the most fulfilled woman I ever met and she was not married.
I was called to marriage at age 35, and I broke up with three other men because God was Number 1, and I knew they were not the one.
Do not settle. I have been married not almost 36 years.
Katherine Foran on June 15, 2018:
Sorry but I'm 30 years of age now & I would like to have a family, there is no way im waiting 30 years for my man. Just forget it. :,(
Lisa on June 02, 2018:
I was doing good until the sexual temptations started up, thats all i think about now. My old self could just go get it done but im abstinent till marriage now and its really throwing me off.
Liz blessed in God! on April 28, 2018:
Finding Husband/Wife. Is both praying and doing. Prsy seek God and keep on looking.
Just like looking for a job.
You seek God about it.
Pray and look.
Though in seeking a spouse he/she
MUST belong to the LORD
1 Cor. 7:39
2 Cor. 3:14
What so ever you do do in faith. All else is sin.
God wants His best for us. Either single Or married.
Life is short we need to enjoy life and bring as many to heaven with us as we can!
Angela Castello on March 30, 2018:
My husband destroyed me hurt me take advantage of me i never in my life thought I would marry a cruel and hateful man he could of said he didn't love me but no he played with me my life i never want to see this man again he is native American criminal by trat loves being a criminal what man says he loves you and is really a monster my credit he ruined my world has been turned up side down i bet his cousin happy she hated me lived behind him it's really sad when people just don't get out of your life i forgave him once I could never do it again forgiving is impossible i have no love for him he is horrible nothing could keep us together nothing I just want to know did you all get dropped on your head u born that way. Please give me a divorce I want to move on no more drama with you people. Bye
BabyP on March 22, 2018:
For a 38-year old who's been through a divorce, I figure waiting for the God sent husband is the only way. It's hard having to wait, especially when there are external pressures and societal norms hovering over your head. But God will provide in His perfect time, and I encourage everyone to wait upon the Lord.
tee on March 01, 2018:
thank you for this girl, I'm only 20. I'm still young and have never been in a relationship. this just gave me the answers ive been needing. I just got back from a date out with a guy that I initiated to ask out, but I just wasn't feeling as much as I though I would and he was. I keep telling myself that when god does send the man he has intended for me, i'll just kinda of know it. but I'm not gonna go looking anymore cause I know that's just ruining what god already has planned for me. ITS IN HIS TIMING not mine. So when he knows I'm ready, the man ive prayed fro countless times will be sent my way. patience is key, and in the mean time like you said. do gods work! expect the unexpected! in jesus name(:
Nokwanele on December 06, 2017:
I'm so happy for you sisters
I'm single 28 years of age from Durban I hope god will remember me.I need a faithful husband I've kept my body clean and poor for him as I'm still a Virgin and god fearing woman help me by praying for me to find a god fearing Adventist man.amen
Jamila on November 14, 2017:
I was just complaining to a friend regarding this same issue. I feel like the only single person, I know that there are good men out there but the chances of meeting them are very slim. I know my husband is out there I just know it and I will not give up, I trust and believe that God is preparing us for eachother. Thank you for sharing your story, God bless you and your family.
And The Truth Is on November 05, 2017:
Well i know that i am on a woman's topic here, but there are many of us very good innocent men looking for a good woman to settle down with as well. Unfortunately it is most of the women of today that have really changed from the old days when finding real love years ago was very easy with no problem at all. And women are so very picky now adding to the problem since most of the women are so very selfish, greedy, spoiled, and very money hungry as well. They will usually go for men that have money or very rich altogether which really decreases our chances of finding a good woman to Accept us for who we really are. Most women today Aren't like the old days which is why many of us men are still single today as i speak since we really can't blame ourselves at all in the first place. So how in the world would many of us good men be able to find a good Godly woman if they're like this now? Not that good at all i would say.
Rebekah on September 25, 2017:
Wow! This is a great article and so inspirational for women like me. I fear being physically alone forever. It's nice to hear these tips from a Godly woman.
Shanny on August 25, 2017:
Sis, what a wonderful story. I have been so discouraged as of late, since being saved almost 1 year ago i have not even been approached by any men. I have such a desire to be married and have more children (I have a son). I almost feel as though i am being punished for my previous decisions, i am trying my best to to leave it to God as i know he is the one who has placed these desires on my heart.
Karis on August 08, 2017:
Sister, I've read a lot of articles like this but somehow yours just stands out. I could relate to you and appreciate your straightforward, grounded way. I praise God that you found a good man after waiting so long, and you challenged me to do what I used to do, pray for my hsband NOW! Thank you and blessings on you!
Dee on July 22, 2017:
The downside of waiting that long is thr inability to have children. Thats great that you found your husband but unfortunately you cannot have children for waiting that long. Its okay that if you never wanted kids
Angie Morris on June 22, 2017:
I, too waited on God to send me a mate. I was 34 when I married and we have been married for 21 years. Every day I become even more thankful I waited on the Lord as I watch more and more marriages crumble. I loved your article. I have a friend in California who is still waiting on the Lord for her mate and she says all of the single men there are either gay or surfers who are broke! Thanks for posting.
natchi on June 21, 2017:
very encouraging story please pray for me too even i am waiting for GOD fearing husband..
Elle Li on June 13, 2017:
Awesome Sis! Thank you!
Maria on June 05, 2017:
Sonya G on May 29, 2017:
After reading this, I realize no mater how much he says he cares about me, if he can't find time to call, he dose not want to talk to me. I'm heartbroken, and realize what my friends have been telling me for a while now is true. I kept making excuses for him not calling and coming to see me. I thought he was the perfect man for me, still do except for the part about never seeing him and rarely getting to talk with him. I know God has his perfect man for me. I just have to wait on God's timing.
Natalie on May 13, 2017:
I feel forgotten by God and that He has no husband for me. I feel like He is ignoring me and not listening to my prayers for a husband. I am 27 and never been kissed or dated. I hate that I haven't had my first kiss yet or first date. I feel ugly, not beautiful and invisible by men. Men never notice me or ask me out on a date or want to kiss me. I feel like God has called me to be single my whole life and doesn't care if I ever get married. I would love for a man to tell me I am beautiful. No one has ever told me I am beautiful before. I feel like God doesn't care if romance ever happens to me, He doesn't care about my first kiss, my first date or my wedding day or my wedding night. It is hard being a virgin waiting for sex. I feel like no man will ever think I am attractive and want to marry me. I feel like no man will ever love and accept me as a vegetarian. I feel like something must be wrong with me. I would love to kiss a man and I would love to go on a date with a man too. Romance never happens to me. No man is ever going to pick me to be their wife. It will never be my turn to get married. I feel left out and that God doesn't love or care about my desires. I feel like God doesn't know how much I would love a husband. I am beginning to feel like my prayers for my future husband aren't working and what is the point of praying if God isn't listening to me and never going to answer my prayers. I am ready to meet the man that God has for me and to get married.
Sn on April 13, 2017:
I am tired of praying for a good man. I am now 49 and men have stopped calling to me. Wrinkles, sagging jowls forehead wrinkles. My time has expired. God sucks
Miriam on April 10, 2017:
Anonymous on March 28, 2017:
I've been praying for a husband for forty five years. Forty five! And let me tell you that I began at the tender age of 14 so there it is.
Audrey on February 26, 2017:
Thank you for your encouraging words. I've been crying all day. I'm 53 years old. Thank you.
Louisa on January 22, 2017:
Hello, that article was so interesting and encouraging.
I am 33 years old and I have been single for a while now. I gave my life to Christ in 2013 and since then I am waiting on him to send me my husband.... it is a bit wary at time.
I just wonder something, I have a type of men that I am into physically so I do mention that to God in my prayers but I wonder if He is not going to bring me someone totally different so my question is should I still have an "ideal" (type of men) or not? Thanks ladies and God bless each and everyone of you. Louisa
Savannah on January 21, 2017:
Thank you so much for this! I've been dreaming of my husband since I was in the 8th grade I just turned 30 and I'm still single not a man in sight. Your story was encouraging thank you! God bless
GardenofGreatness on May 02, 2015:
SavvySyi -- Why don't you have any confidence in yourself or your husband?! That's just sad to be honest. It takes two. If you think your husband is that weak minded then are you sure he's a good one? ;-)
Millicent chiku on April 10, 2015:
I hav a oneson and i need a God fearing man
Rainchild on March 26, 2015:
Cecilia Rose on March 24, 2015:
I'm around 23, I've made that mistake of seeking out a man to keep me happy. I was in love with the idea of being in love. Which led me to have kids young and be in an abusive relationship for 6 years. When I finally gotten out of it. I started rebuilding my life. I tried my best, started working, etc, I had a lot of things to work out and work on. And from my previous relationship I was still feeling unmotivated and would feel as if I wasn't ready for anything, I was by myself for over a year, had tried dating a person who was totally wrong for me, he pursued me, but It was as if I had to teach him how a relationship works, and how to treat the other person, cherish them. So I ended it. I have 2 small boys as well, and he seemed to accept them, but kept them from his mind, so knowing they were there but not really acknowledging them. After this relationship. And I accepted this relationship with the attitude of why not, no harm in trying. But I felt nothing for him. After I ended it, I went back to being by myself. But I enjoyed being by myself. I've enjoyed it for over a year. I wasn't seeking anything, I knew what I was then looking for. I decided to keep waiting, I was in no hurry, and I hoped God would send me the one who'd accept me for who I was. This is when I met my Fiancé, It was online through our mutual love of gaming, he lives in Europe, while I live in America. I didn't think anything of the situation, he sent a request to be friends, I accepted, and we started our conversation about a game we were playing, we spoke for around 5 hours plus straight, we said goodnight shortly, and I thought, ok this is it, going on as usual. The next day he wrote to me again, and we spent the rest of the day speaking as well, I wasn't interested at first, I thought he was interesting as a person, but I was defensive when It comes to relationships. Little by little we opened up to each other, I was pouring my heart out to a person I hardly know, I was freaking out, why was I being so open??! It was so natural, I was smiling everyday, and he was a Christian as well! We had the same morals and he was a kind and generous person. Shortly afterwards he asked me out, I usually prefer to take things slowly and wanted it to take more time. He did lead on this, and I was having trouble with this, because i'm very independent, and had issues with controlling men. But I let him lead, I trusted him 100 percent and didn't even know why. All the barriers I put up I let him pass. He's moving to America soon, has made all the steps to do so, I'm so nervous to meet him, he calls me when he can (due to our time differences.) He leaves me a message for me to read when I wake up, He adjusted his schedule to spend as much time talking with me as he could. (He is owner of his business, which allows for him to adjust his schedule.) We talk every day. And we fell in love, I thought I was in love with my kids father, but it was fake compared to what I feel now. His feelings are mutual, he's only 2 years older than me, but it feels as if we share the same soul, same morals, same beliefs about almost everything. He's 25 and isn't thinking about partying or hanging out with friends 24/7 or what usual 20 year olds are doing and thinking of, I feel he's at the same maturity level as I, who had kids young, and had to grow up fast and be responsible. Though we both have childish tendencies in humor and fun, Like finding it fun to go run off to ride roller coasters and such. I have a strong feeling that this is the person God has chosen for me. He even wants to Marry accepts my kids and loves children, and even wants more. This man reached out and said, I know you have stuff to work on, but i'll be here to support you. Is this what God intended?
Evans4life (author) on March 19, 2015:
Trina- Good for you. Be sure you are not turning away your gift from God. He uses other people to introduce us to the want He wants us to have. You read my story. Be encouraged and thanks for stopping by.
Trina F on March 12, 2015:
My situation is this.
1) I have never had a desire for kids.
2) I have prayed and asked God to give
me the desire for kids if it's His will that I marry and have them, and to take away my desire for a husband if it's His will I stay single.
I have not lost the desire for a husband, and I still don't want kids.
Hmmm. So I am patiently waiting on God, and unless He reveals that He has other plans, I believe he is preparing my husband, while at the same time
preparing me for marriage.
I also am content in the mean time.
I will continue to walk with God, as He is my priority.
By God's grace I have not settled.
People try to " help" me and set me up,
sometimes mothers want to push me to be with their son, but I want to know that it's GOD'S will and God's choice for me. I am willing to wait as long as it takes, until I meet the man that I KNOW is the right one for me, and he'll
KNOW I am the right one.
The Holy Spirit will lead us.
Evans4life (author) on January 20, 2015:
First let me apologize for taking so long to reply. It's been a crazy couple of months for me. Next- start this year off with a new gratitude and appreciation for life. Activate your faith. Just as God brount your late husband into your life, he will bring another if you trust Him. Cast all your care upon Him because He cares for you. Thanks for stopping by.
Anney on December 29, 2014:
I'm struggling to survive. My husband passed away 10 yrs ago and I still feel like half of my body is missing. I'm tired of people telling me to forget him, he's gone, you have to move on. Its like telling the wind not to blow or the sun not to shine. He knew all the bad things about me.. and he loved me anyway.
I'm trying to connect with God, but it's difficult. I don't blame Him for my husbands death. I just don't know where to begin. I have been studying on my own, then I have sin full thoughts and feel guilty. I just want to feel whole again.
Evans4life (author) on October 11, 2014:
@In pain- You can do all things through Christ! Focus on your purpose in Christ and not your pain or that man. He will raise you up in due season.
in pain on October 10, 2014:
Reading all of the posts I sincerely pray that the almighty continues to work through our lives. I am in a very unhappy situation about a man I am fully aware is the wrong man for me. I pray for strength every day to walk away from his presence, heal and prepare for that healthy encounter that I know I deserve. I am in a very dark place struggling daily to feel worthy and I just ask for prayers as I work towards regaining my happiness, health spiritually and physically and hopefully one day begin the journey of preparing myself for my husband. Blessings to all.
Evans4life (author) on October 08, 2014:
Right now your husband should be God/Jesus Christ. Any longings you have now are out of his will as he has not provided you with a husband yet. Redirect your longings for Christ. Thanks for stopping by.
Annette on October 03, 2014:
After reading most of these comments I stopped feeling sad about my situation. I see others have been waiting a lot longer than me. I'm 24 yrs old. I'm a journalism student graduating in May of next year. I keep telling myself after school is over and I have more free time, my husband will come. I'm not sure why I keep telling myself this like it's true! A couple of people mentioned literally having cravings for their husband. That's exactly how I feel! I literally yearn for him. I know I have to stay patient and work on myself before I add anyone else into the mix but I just can't shake this NEED. I NEED my partner. I can hardly deal with being without him. I have feelings like I miss him. Like I've known him before or something and that I already love him so much. I don't understand it. It's pretty maddening to be honest. It scares me to read everyone's stories of waiting for 20 or 30 years. That scares me. Or being married for 10 or 15 years and having their spouse cheat on them, causing them to start the entire process over! How horrifying! Sometimes I just want to go home already. When I see other people in happy relationships it makes me feel so sad sometimes. I know I don't have it as bad as others. I date regularly and I have friends. I wouldn't say I'm lonely. I have a big, loving family. I'm content with my direction in life. I don't feel "lost". I just miss my husband and I want to be in his arms already....
Evans4life (author) on September 24, 2014:
Lovingman1966 and bobbeth- Seek God and let Him direct your path in love. Thanks for stopping by!
bobbeth hanniford on September 22, 2014:
Am 42 am seeking of my soul mate am lonely
Evans4life (author) on September 10, 2014:
Hey Jason, You are right, some of us don't want or need a man but underlying it all they probably has had some negative experience in relationships where they have just given up. There is someone out there for you.. keep trusting and believing. Thanks for stopping by!
Jason on September 04, 2014:
There are just too many mean and stuck up women nowadays that are making it very difficult for many of us men trying to find love, and we are certainly not to blame since most women don't even want a relationship anymore.
thuo susan on August 26, 2014:
Await one of my part god preparing me one day at a time aim a single mother of two girls aim29age pls god remember me to have a home I divorce one I try to save .my home now I tell my god pls God give me second chance like ayufh
Evans4life (author) on August 13, 2014:
Reality- Thank you for your comment and you are definitely entitled to your opinion, however, I'm not sure what your opinion is. I teach people to live life to the fullest, be happy and complete whether you are married or not- make lemonade out of lemons. It sound as though you believe God is not concerned about our daily lives...when in fact, according to the Word, he is concerned about us. You believe what you want and I will believe what the Word tells me---and let's see who has more peace of mind. Thank you for stopping by.
Reality on August 12, 2014:
God does nothing. If there is a god it is surely divorced from the minutia of our daily existences. If there is a god it is the waking, conscious universe and that is not conducive to giving people to people. We live short, very short lives and have just a small amount of time to enjoy existence. There is no evidence that help will come from elsewhere, for now we must take the responsibility, and prove to the waking conscious universal God whose name is charity and compassion that we are not small minded, pitiful, spiteful, hateful, selfish things.
The only sin is living backwards, stagnating, never growing or questioning or seeking. Go out there and look for something, and even if it isn't a man or woman that finds you, if the answer you get is a small peace of mind that allows you to see what you have in front of you, then it was worth it.
Evans4life (author) on July 09, 2014:
Yes! God will forgive you if you are truly and Godly sorrow. Godly sorrow means that we will give up the sin. Since he is your daughter's father, you are connected for life, but you must find a way to keep the relationship just that. I'm praying for you. Make up your mind to release him in your heart so you can receive who God wants for you.
Lala on July 08, 2014:
Will God forgive me if I had sex with a married man. The man is actually my daughters father. We were together 4 years before he unexpectedly got married to a women he bearly knew. We definitely have soul ties that hasn't been broken. I feel so horrible!!
k0rl0 on June 21, 2014:
I am facing some challenges right now. I recently broke up with my ex a couple months ago. I have come back to follow God's will for my life since I was living in sin with my ex. I began dating him because he had a Christian background and attended church and I felt loved by him but he left me twice before. I struggled so much but I leaned on God and years ago God promised he already had someone for me and when he came into my life I would just know. But it's so hard and I'm 27 and just every relationship went wrong. He has called me into ministry that I am still preparing for but I honestly can't seem to shake off my ex. I had already handed everything into God's hands and my ex came back asking to be part of my life because he said he saw how positive I was but of course family and friends told me to tell him to leave me alone. And since then I can't shake it off and I want to contact him deep down inside. I guess honestly maybe I experience doubt because there's no way God would allow someone who is for me to just walk out a couple of times before and then when I'm positive now and full of God's life to try to come back in and have me make the mistake of just letting him go this time around, right? Deep down I'm scared and do wonder, what if he came back to want to stay and be with me and I just pushed him away? If he was the one then he would have fought for me harder and not let me go when things weren't easy and when "I wasn't at my best"
Maybe I wish he would have never came back to stir up all these feelings if he wasn't the one for me after I was already moving on...
But I do realize I have a ministry calling and need to fulfill that first maybe while God also deals with my internal issues for when God actually does want me to have a partner.
Evans4life (author) on June 19, 2014:
Summer- Enjoyed your vent. Keeping holding on. You appear to have the right frame of mind- keep your focus on others, on ministry. In due time, he will come. I hope you enjoy your summer, Summer. Thanks for stopping by. Share the hubs with your friends. Visit my blog at http://evans4life.net and shop at our online store...http://evans4fashion.com
Summer on June 19, 2014:
Still waiting, still holding on. I hate making my life centered around this but its always on my mind. I want to be more involved in ministry but I'm still in school for a little while longer then I get to be a counselor :-) I think it will really help me focus on other things when I'm helping people. I saw this guy online.. been looking at his profile for yearsss.. He seems to be a male version of me but there is only so much you can tell about a person without talking to them.. I finally did, he never responded lol. Was a little disappointed but hey God knows, cares and sets up a divine appointments. It's really confusing at times because it almost seems like the non christian ones think I'm gorgeous and are always interested and the christian ones who seem to have the same values with me seem really picky, which is good of course. I would just love to at least start a friendship with someone who has similar spiritual convictions about God to show interest of some kind. SIGH! Just venting. Holding on. Pray for me! Will definitely pray for all of yall!
Evans4life (author) on June 08, 2014:
You are a Princess in God's eyes. Remember that! It's hard, it takes faith and patience. Stop focusing on what you don't have and focus on the things of God and your girls. Sometimes when we take our eyes. Stay in touch and thanks for stopping by. Share my blog with your friends...evans4life.net and visit my online retail shop, evans4fashion.com
princess 87 on June 07, 2014:
I am a 27yr old single mother. I work and go to school and take care of my girls. Lord knows I don't understand why I can't find somwone to talk to? I've tried dating site and still no luck.I'm starting to lose hope and get frustrated. Lord please help md to undrstenf
Evans4life (author) on June 04, 2014:
@trob- so sorry. Maybe it's your mind set. Try to be positive and grateful. Thanks for stopping by.
trob on June 04, 2014:
The only thing thid blog did for me was make me depressed and angry.
Evans4life (author) on June 03, 2014:
@nnennaya- Although I don't understand what a white garment church is, my advice is to do nothing and wait for God. Go out have fun with friends, work on making yourself valuable and enjoy life. Singles fail to realize that a lot of freedoms you have now will be lost when you get married. Take this time to appreciate. Keep your eyes on God and not on your friends. Thanks for stopping by. Share my blog evans4life.net and my online store evans4fashion.com with your family and friends.
nnennaya on June 03, 2014:
I am a confused young lady am 3Oyrs am even crying as am typing this, after reading ur article "Don't Waste Time on Relationships That
Aren't Going Anywhere" I realised I actually wasted my time. I was in a relationship for 1Oyrs he kept telling me we will marry but at the end he said his parents won't support him getting married to a lady that attends white garment church. Now am so disorganized, heart broken and regrets is the order of the day. I have no place to go no one to turn to and am of age even getting too old as every body around me reminds me to go and marry that all my friends are all married. Plz what do I do?
Evans4life (author) on June 01, 2014:
@Ben. Sorry you think this is nonsense. No I don't believe in Santa, I believe in God. Thanks for stopping by!
Evans4life (author) on June 01, 2014:
@steffsings, Great advice! Thanks for stopping by.
Ben on June 01, 2014:
Are you kidding me? Why do so-called "intelligent" people still believe in such nonsense? I suppose you believe in Santa as well?
steffsings from Pacific NorthWest on June 01, 2014:
Good information. It's important that women and men get involved in doing good, kind, helpful, fun things rather than focusing solely on... 'when is Boaz finally going to arrive'. Might as well enjoy life and use the wonderful spiritual gifts we have now, then If/when a man/woman arrives, there will be lots of good things to share.
Evans4life (author) on May 27, 2014:
Thanks Vera, I can't tell you how many of these spell caster stories I get. I delete them all. It is unbelievable. I appreciate you. Thanks for stopping by.
TK on May 27, 2014:
I'm not sure your story is relevant for this website. It appears most people here are looking to God for help and not someone who casts spells.
God bless you and I wish you the best.
Evans4life (author) on May 27, 2014:
Monica- Singles events can be very depressing if you're are not in the right frame of mind. Be encouraged. God knows your heart's desires. Be faithful to Him and He will honor faithfullness. Thanks for stopping by. Share my websites with your friends. evans4life.net
evans4fashion.com. God bless you!
Monica on May 26, 2014:
Thank you very much for your very encouraging testimony. I was feeling very down these past few days and recognize it as an attack from the enemy. The straw today that put me in tears was going to a singles event that was a reminder of the "same ol" I was so discouraged and it was depressing. I reminded myself to get rid of my pride but had a difficult time holding back the tears. Thank you for the reminder to pray for our husband and to know God is faithful!
Evans4life (author) on May 22, 2014:
Rae, You have to tell him. If he has been open with you, you owe it to him to openup to him. If this is God's blessing, you don't want to keep secrets now. This is what the foundation of a good relationship is built on...truth and openness. If he runs away, he is not the one anyway. Prayerfully have a conversation. Trust God. Stay in touch and thanks for stopping by.
Rae2Rae on May 22, 2014:
Thanks for such a great article! I too am waiting on a godly man, but in the process of waiting and not having sex for a number of years, I found out that I have the what's thought of as one of the "dirty woman's disease". I have herpes and am devastated to know that I have it. I particularly don't feel as if any man would want to marry someone who could possibly spread this to them. I recently met someone who wants to get to know me and he was very open about his issues on our first conversation. I always shy away from men who have so many issues in their lives, but for some reason, I feel like God may have given us this chance meeting because we would be able to lean on each other at times. I don't know how to tell him I have this disease and I don't feel like now is the right time. I don't plan on having sex with him anytime soon, but he was so open with me about his issues. He wanted to put everything out on the table to see if I would run the other way.
Evans4life (author) on May 11, 2014:
Mary- What a refreshing testimony. Stay strong in The Lord and in the power of His might. He will blow your mind. Thanks for stopping by.
Mary on May 11, 2014:
I am glad o find such an inspiring article. I am almost 33 years old and have never had a real relationship before and never had sexual relations. I have dated and such but have never found a man that I wanted a relationship WHO ALSO wanted a relationship with me. I have decided to leave this one up to God. He knows what I look for in a spouse.
Evans4life (author) on April 14, 2014:
Jane, Thanks for stopping by. Be encouraged!
Ann Leavitt from Oregon on April 14, 2014:
Thank you! Great article and much that I have always practiced and believed over the years—but very good to be reminded of again. :)
Yaxi on April 04, 2014:
I am a man of 31years. I am single at the moment. I am definitely looking for a soulmate. If u are interested plz contact me on +2207523844. Or email firstname.lastname@example.org. Everything is in the hands of God. Let God brought us together.
Evans4life (author) on March 26, 2014:
What a great testimony! You can't go wrong with a friend. Hopefully, if God says the same, it will develop! Stay in touch!
Anne on March 26, 2014:
I would like to thank you for the wonderful encouragement you gave me regarding the boy I felt drawn to at church and at school. I finally plucked up the courage to say hello, and I am happy to say we have become pretty good friends. It's all in God's hands now. Thanks again, and God bless :)
Evans4life (author) on March 23, 2014:
anonymous- you don't have to stop writing. I would love to continue to hear from you. You are still healing from the loss of your husband. Continue to surround yourself with Christian friends who love you and want what's best for you. I want the same for you. Be strong. Stay encouraged. Come back real soon.